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April may Posted 3 months ago
Where have all the good men gone.

I am fed up with these dating sites. I don’t believe in texting or 16 whatever they want to call it I prefer to go out the old-fashioned way and meet someone nice be friends and date but that doesn’t seem to be the way anymore .

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    • April may 28th August 2021 at 2:18 pm

      As you get older and you believe in self development the best way is to be positive and as you go along we do not judge because we simply looking for a mate of our own, if by any chance you go out on a date and the connection is not there air-it just nice to be nice and maybe that person will learn something from you you instead of being negative. My advice is don’t get in too deep don’t get too serious Keith heat lights and see where it goes from there.

    • April may 28th August 2021 at 2:19 pm

      Sorry about the dictation.

    • Deleted User 28th August 2021 at 7:25 pm

      I would never join a dating site.
      We all want different things in a partner, so a good man to someone, may not be the same for another. But generally speaking, a good man is someone who respects you, is loyal and trustworthy, honest, courteous, thoughtful, loving and caring.
      There is someone out there for all of us. We have to ‘be out there’ in order to find him. Doing something we don’t usually do, doing something on the spur of the moment, joining a group etc were all stopped last year but hopefully now we can all start venturing out and ‘bump’ into Mr Right.
      It will happen if its meant to happen.
      Wishing you all the best in finding your Mr Right.

    • NeilB 28th August 2021 at 7:29 pm

      Obviously there are exceptions, but I’ve always found that when you’re looking you never find ‘it’, but when you’re not it finds you at the least expected time.

    • Strot62 29th August 2021 at 5:36 pm

      Another avenue to try is these online games-Word games. I recently joined. Have recently connected to 3. 1 sadly joined the kerb crew. He was a player. 2nd is married but I enjoy the banter while playing the game. The 3rd is more involved with the chat. He lives across the pond. Early days.

      • Cheers on toast 31st August 2021 at 8:02 am

        I have found Words With Friends a good place to make friends, good to chat and get to know each other without it being the only reason you are on the site for.
        Over the last few years I have met 4 people from there and whilst none of us were totally compatible we remain friends and meet up regularly with no pressure.

    • Deleted User 31st August 2021 at 7:44 am

      Meeting in the real world is preobably the way to go. Probably a challenge given the current circumstances, but hopefully the world will open up a bit more in the near future.

    • Terry75 31st August 2021 at 8:02 am

      Been on my own 20 months now, briefly went on a dating site but not for me. I have a rather lovely friend and we meet up once or twice a week for days out. I don’t need anything else as I’m quite content with life and have someone I can enjoy nice walks with and spoil a little.

      • Cheers on toast 31st August 2021 at 8:55 am

        That sounds ideal, after living alone for many years I find it difficult being with anyone for more than a few days at a time, call it selfish but you just get in the groove of doing what you want when you want with no great debates.

        • Terry75 31st August 2021 at 9:25 am

          I don’t think its selfish its just nice to be able to please yourself without it causing an issue. I enjoy treating Jackie when I see her, meal out or bunch of flowers and what have you makes her feel nice which in turn makes me feel happy. I do find the prospect of getting old on my own a little bit of a downer but those are the cards I’ve been dealt so got to smile and get on with it.

        • April may 31st August 2021 at 1:02 pm

          And that’s ok you do whatever makes you happy.

    • Sandyg 31st August 2021 at 10:03 am

      How do you do that though, in 60s and a new location ?

    • Terry75 31st August 2021 at 10:32 am

      Its not easy I have to say. I’ve 32 years uniformed service under my belt so I don’t lack confidence but asking someone out was a different matter lol. I’d known her, through work, but hadn’t seen her for over a year when I bumped into her so I just bit the bullet and asked, she said “yes, I’d love to”. Happy days. I think you get to an age, I’m 64, when its not just about looks though she is quite lovely, a nice pleasant personality and good company are more important. Look to volunteering or join an interest group you’ll be surprised how many people are in a similar situation. If you like music a Local Jazz, Blues or folk club. Dinner club you’ll soon make friends and you never know!!!! Lol.

    • Fuff 31st August 2021 at 2:40 pm

      Not even tried a dating site, not sure I could be bothered. It would be lovely to meet someone for company just through the course of everyday life.

    • Sandyg 31st August 2021 at 5:01 pm

      16 ??

    • ShirleyB 31st August 2021 at 6:21 pm

      There is a site on the Web called Meetup – it has been affected by lockdown as it is a place for meeting up with like minded people face to face in groups. You can enter your area and the things you enjoy and search for groups in that area – I started one a few years ago but limited it to women only – looking back it should have been mixed. However it is a great way to meet people in the “old fashioned way” some you will get on with and some you won’t. I hope to retire in the near future and I am thinking of starting another one up – mixed this time!. So many lonely people out there – some looking for a partner and some just for friends. Give it a try there is no subscription and some organisers only charge £1 towards the cost of their group.

    • Sandyg 31st August 2021 at 10:36 pm

      yes , I’m with Meetups. Has been my saving grace really.

    • Seaquinn 1st September 2021 at 5:38 am

      I did online dating once and met a lovely man – he’s had several partners since we met – we still chat but he was older than his profile stated with an old picture talen way back in the day and he picked me because he liked my picture and didn’t take time to read my profile – what happened to singles clubs where you could meet in a relatively safe place, get to see them in reality and get to know them before taking the plunge and spending months chatting to someone you’ve never met – too much fakery online and scammers

    • Gerard371 15th October 2021 at 4:03 pm

      Sometimes the best way to meet someone is the old fashioned way, but update your patter.

      Now I have a few beers, wander over to a desperate looking female, and say, get your housecoat and slippers you’re pulled.

    • siandeve15 15th October 2021 at 10:53 pm

      Thirty years ago whilst going through a divorce I decided I wanted another woman.
      Long before the days of online dating websites.
      Back in the day I’d used Loot newspaper to buy & sell stuff pre ebay.
      In the back of Loot was a lonely hearts column.
      Long story short.
      I met someone special moved into her house a year later.
      Lived together for 15 years.
      Asked her to marry me.
      Went to Tobago in the Caribbean and had the Wedding ceremony on the the beach.
      March of 2022 will be our 14th anniversary.
      Getting married was the single best decision of my life by a clear country mile.
      Now both retired & pre Pandemic we travel the World & I wouldn’t want to be without her.
      We share everything & just do our own thing.
      The moral of this story is.
      You can get lucky in love.
      You have to make up your mind & go after it.
      Insidently my first cousin met his 2nd wife on a dating website & have been happily married for the last 7 years.
      My cousin definitely not your usual sort of person as he speaks 6 languages fluently Inc Russian.
      Jane his wife is just a lovely person.
      Good luck to all of you.
      I’d go for the old fashioned approach again.
      Definitely worked for me.
      Dating websites, no to much nonsense.
      Your call.

    • Deleted User 15th October 2021 at 11:50 pm

      A good man is hard to find.

    • Mad Ralph 15th October 2021 at 11:55 pm

      I think that if a good looking guy or girl hasn’t been snapped up by the time their 30 years old there’s usually a reason. That’s why it’s hard to find a good one in later life. Most of the good ones are gone. Controversial I know but that’s the way my thinking goes.

    • April may 16th October 2021 at 2:36 am

      Up date well. I tried speed dating no joy there.lol

    • Chojo 16th October 2021 at 6:29 am

      There’s still plenty of good men out here, but I think most of us have been treated badly by someone we thought was a good woman. I’m not a fan of internet dating it’s too easy to be deceived.

      • April may 16th October 2021 at 2:04 pm

        I’m sorry to hear about men being hurts from women but also we mean have been hurt by men and I think the best way to get over the is to reflect on what went wrong and learn from it and move on because if you don’t you always have that hurts inside you and it will stop you from having a relationship with another woman.

    • Anonymous User (no longer active) 16th October 2021 at 7:09 am

      Some of us got fed up with being abused by shallow women who cant see further than the thickness of a man’s wallet.

    • Shirlann 16th October 2021 at 2:10 pm

      Married or gay🤔🙃

    • Pennypitstop 17th October 2021 at 1:41 pm

      There are still a lot of good guys out there but I do think that a lot of men use dating sites as a porn site to get their kicks. I think the ones where you have to pay are probably more reliable and trustworthy . I know freinds who have developed good relationships from dating sites, there are also some that have had bad experiences. I do think it is a risky way of meeting people nowadays though. I think you should take a friend with you initially, if someone genuinely wants to meet you and is a nice guy they wouldn’t mind you bringing a friend along at the start.

    • Wunderwoman 18th October 2021 at 1:44 pm

      Online dating sites just seem so brutal to me – can’t beat getting to know someone before you can think of taking things further. Not my cup of tea.

    • TmonT 18th October 2021 at 2:26 pm

      You holding on for a Hero 😂 Don’t think Bonnie Tyler ever found the answer

    • Margaret B 19th October 2021 at 1:27 pm

      Surely its more about personality than looks and a thick wallet?

    • Malcolm 20th October 2021 at 11:15 am

      Self awareness, instinct and honesty does the trick for me. Or not.

    • Brighton Belle 20th October 2021 at 8:18 pm

      Sense humour -tall dark handsome good looks-slight accent does it for me -just watching “Zorro ” ……….😘

    • Brighton Belle 21st October 2021 at 8:22 am

      Like this you mean……

    • Alan J 22nd October 2021 at 9:17 pm

      I can’t believe a Lovely Young Lady like you Worries about this!
      And are you sure your old enough to be here !
      Be yourself, if you are as Beautiful on the inside as the outside, then some lucky Guy going to get You! Be yourself, be happy, Keep off the Dating sites and leave it to God.

      PS Stop posting Such things or I’ll tell your Parents!