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[email protected] Posted 2 months ago
When my husband died I became a widow. I dislike this title, I found this quote which sums up how I feel.

I made this tile as it really does say how I feel. I think in future I’ll cross widow out and put “ wife to a husband with wings” .

15 likes & 17 replies
    • Lizzi-Beth 17th November 2021 at 10:12 am

      Beautiful ❤️

    • Forestbather 17th November 2021 at 10:14 am

      Sorry for your loss. You are a single woman. No woman should be defined by a man. No man should be defined by a woman. Or indeed by a same sex partner.

      • Sandyg 18th November 2021 at 9:25 pm

        I disagree…those who stayed together lovingly ‘ til death did them part’..are unlikely to feel ,or want to be referred to, as Single.
        Their love and partnership dosent end in Death.
        Its totally different to those of us who are single because our relationships have ended by someone’s choice, or who never did enter a Life partnership for whatever reason.

    • Dorothea 17th November 2021 at 12:36 pm

      I think the equivalent applies to widowers too. My dad still wears his wedding ring 4 years later. He hasn’t stopped being married. Mam isn’t physically here anymore. Neither widower or single cover him really.

    • Shirlann 17th November 2021 at 12:39 pm

      Lovely 😁anything that makes you feel better!

    • Keith D 17th November 2021 at 1:06 pm

      Thanks for posting it. Its beautiful. No longer class myself as a widower
      I say that i am married to an Angel who lives in heaven.
      I maybe classed as single under English law, i still wear my wedding ring and so does my Angel wife

      She told me ( when i pop off dont be morbid)
      Dont be lonely or unloved

    • Keith D 17th November 2021 at 1:51 pm

      how would you change things and how ?

    • [email protected] 17th November 2021 at 2:09 pm

      Just Angel in heaven

    • Moya 17th November 2021 at 3:40 pm

      It’s lovely when you find a writing that reflects your own thoughts. Your tile is lovely

    • Keith D 17th November 2021 at 6:47 pm

      You my darling may not physically be on earth with me
      But when I think of you lots of emptiness i daily see

      We fell in love many happy and loving years ago
      And we knew that our love for each other would grow

      But then the monster cancer came and took you
      And for many sad days, and years i simply wondered what to do

      Each my heart is empty and aches for you ; all the time
      And i feel as though, i must have committed a horrible crime

      Now my love for you continues to live on in my al most destroyed heart
      Because you are now in heaven, and of my life no longer a physical part

      Mr chipps xx

    • Keith D 17th November 2021 at 7:08 pm

      LYNN Please don’t be sorry for me? I have been on my own over 25 years.which is longer than we were physically married !

      I like you hate cancer. Its?taken away many of my family including siblings and in laws
      I dont like the name widowed and now i rarely mention my marital status, unless asked or it is mentioned? I and i still wear my wedding ring
      I feel sad for your loss off your husband it must make you feel so many sad emotions

      I f i can support you please ask me
      I created the poem as i was reading yours and other people’s posts.
      I have to do this ,or i either get a horrible uncomfortable feeling in my stomach, or i forget it?
      I’m sending you a hug to try to comfort you. Keith

    • [email protected] 17th November 2021 at 7:28 pm

      Thank you Keith, I much appreciate it. Yes cancer took my husband away 2 day off our 36 wedding anniversary and with 2 months of being diagnosed. I have good memories and made 7 good friends since his death, but if I’m honest if you put them all together they still don’t fill the void he left. But they are there to talk help when I need someone.

      • Keith D 17th November 2021 at 10:31 pm

        Lynn sadly no one will ever fill the void left by your husband or my wife of 26 years.
        My wife died exactly 7 weeks to the day she was diagnosed.
        It took me several years to accept that it wasnt my fault she died? As i thought i was being punished for something i had done in .y life
        Im 73 now and?am inly wanting to make friends and nothing mor

        I have had failed relationships, mainly because the divorced women were expecting me to be bullies like their ex s

        I have loyal friends of both sexes
        You may find that after 2 years your emotions and feelings change, which is all part of the grieving process

        You find it scary but its natural and you’re not deserting your husband?
        You are just moving in to the next part of your new journey
        Take care and stay safe
        and well
        Hugs to guide you and try to support you
        keith the poet

    • Alexandra 2013 18th November 2021 at 10:39 pm

      Love it 😃💖