What new skills have you learned since your 50th (and not just for work)?
In last Saturday’s email, Rest Less profiled some free courses available to do from home. The article got me thinking about the concept of lifelong learning and what (and how) we choose to learn as we mature – just in case you missed it, you can find the article here.
I’d love to hear your stories. What are the best new skills (and not just work-related ones) that you’ve taken on and learned since passing your 50th birthday? What motivated you to tackle it? How has the new talent changed your life for the better? What was the format – on-line, short-course, weekend retreat, skills swaps? What’s still on your ‘to do’ list?
Over time, I’ve enrolled in all sorts – coaching, on-line language courses, writing masterclasses, personal development, mindfulness, dance workshops…my list is long and varied! My ‘to do’ list includes (among many others) fencing, parkour, attending a writers conference and DJ’ing.
Posted by Helen Burns 31st March 2020 at 11:59 am
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Reply by sarah_chil 27th June 2020 at 3:02 pm
Just started cycling to and from work. Although I have had a bike for a while only did very infrequent trips. Now it’s 4.65 each way. Thankfully more downhill into work. Sticking to quiet roads and paths – the incentive as well as fitness was in case I couldn’t get in a bus due to social distancing requirements
Reply by sandraayris 27th June 2020 at 11:29 am
I love learning new things and always have something on my bucket list to learn. I’m 57 and since turning 50 I’ve learnt ( in no particular order) to grow veg, to crochet, to swim with my face in the water 😂, to salsa, to use a drill to put up shelves (!!) and to speak Spanish. I’ve also learnt patience and understanding caring for a relative with dementia. Next on my list …. Welsh and map reading.
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Reply by watermanjulie4 27th June 2020 at 10:24 am
I am disabled and havent worked for 33 years. However I have always tried to keep active as possible. However since an operation five years ago it has become harder and harder so now try to find things I can do from bed. I used to knit avidly but cant do it now because of shoulder pain so I taught myself how to loom knit as different ar movements its been great and made prsents for people and jumpers for myself. I have also tried to help people on forums for people with my illnesses. I try to help people newly diagnosed especially. I find it so ssad people struggling to try and do everything they did before and/or desperately searching for answers and cures where there are none. I advocate kindness to yourself and adapting and looking for success and pleasure in the smallest things. for example being well enough to make a phone call, or make dinner from scratch or watch a favourite movie. It makes me feel at least in a small way Im useful
Reply by willsfireman 27th May 2020 at 10:06 am
At 52 just before retirement from the Fire Service I took a course and an additional 4 years of supervision to train in Traumatic Incident Reduction. I recently qualified and help people who suffer with depression, ptsd and all manner of other trauma that they have encountered.i even do it online via Skype. My military and FS background of trauma really helped!
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Reply by dan_handman 16th May 2020 at 6:26 pm
Helen… I love that parkour is on your bucket list! I’d love to try lol… but I’m not sure my body would agree! Despite me working out regularly and trying to keep fit…! My mind is def a different (younger) age than the rest of me! Ha. plus they will all laugh when they see a 50+ turning up to parlour class😳
Helen I think you must be a gymnast when you were younger? 🙂
Reply by carole 9th May 2020 at 1:06 pm
Hi everyone. I’ve just joined, glad to have found you.
After I retired I took a BA at the Open University in Creative Writing and am now a published author.
Reply by dan_handman 16th May 2020 at 6:16 pm
Im 54 so not yet retired, but I found your comment really inspiring! A degree and a published author…wow! Can you point me to one of your publications?
Did it cost a lot to study? And are you seeing a return from the book(s)? Or is it just for fun
Reply by rydalsawrey 7th May 2020 at 5:23 pm
Good Evening Everyone,
Well since I turned 50 last September, I can definitely say I have had a spiritual epiphany and really taken my self care in terms of meditation and chanting to another level. It felt right to do it and I really enjoy it and there are so many aspects to it – its such good fun too. Its great for that ‘me time ‘ moment which I struggled to stick to for the past 15 years or so…. I took courses on New Skills Academy on CBT and Aromatherapy. I have always loved essential oils and wanted to learn the subject more. I have also got more hooked on learning digital marketing as it is the way forward…. I have taken up creative pursuits again including making my own cards, baking cakes again , crocheting, learning oracle cards and social media as well as giving bits of furniture a new lease of life… My personal development is an ongoing project, anxiety came from nowhere at the age of 46 when I had an underactive thyroid confirmed knocked my confidence and I felt like I lost a few years sorting my head out….. I have many things still on my to do list, including touring the Outer Hebrides, seeing Lindisfarne island, climbing a few more Cumbrian fells I have yet to climb, try to retrain to being a coach of some sort, I would still like to write ……. and be my own boss….. you have to have your dreams ……
Reply by jo.bodley 29th April 2020 at 12:50 pm
We-ell…I had a massive nervous breakdown when I was 55, which I thought would be the end of the world…but it wasn’t.
I found out who my real friends were- which is definitely worth knowing.
I found out that there are lots of resources and organisations and individuals out there to offer help and support to people with any kind of mental health issue. I learned that mental illness is a protected category in work terms, that by law employers have no right to discriminate against people on the basis of it.
I’m not pretending its been a bed of roses- it hasn’t, and theres a long way to go, yet.
but in terms of recognising the issues, and the problem, and deciding to become part of the solutiuon- thats all been positive, for me.
I think its shocking that so many (young) people are dying of conditions which are treatable, if only there were not such stigma about getting help.
I did a course at Dulwich Picture Gallery targeted at mental health service users in their 50s where I met 4 wonderful people who are still my friends today.I learned to stop caring what people thought of me, and to talk louder, so that now Ican run communitygroups.
So all I am saying is…its never too late to learn something new, to change direction, to drop old habits and behaviours which are no longer serving you.
Reply by Helen Burns 30th April 2020 at 5:50 pm
Thank you for sharing your story, which is one of hope for anyone who is going through challenges, particularly with mental health. It’s reassuring that there is help available at what can often be an isolated time. How wonderful that you’ve been able to learn from your own experience and take that forward into supporting others.
Reply by jackiej1 27th April 2020 at 12:16 pm
Hi, My name’s Jackie.
I was made redundant in my 50th year. I’d forgotten until I checked my CV just now!
I’m 58 and since then I’ve done a basic Customer Service Training. I’ve trained as a Relaxation Consultant, Wellbeing/Life coach and am currently Doing a Holistic Colour and Style Consultant training. I use these in my own life and plan to support others with these modalities going forward.
I used to go to Salsa lessons and gave up many years ago until I found a great company that’s provides online training. So I’m learning some new and improving on old skills around that.
I’m very much into personal development and spiritual growth so am always developing skills along those lines as well.
I’m happy to be part of this forum.
Reply by dan_handman 16th May 2020 at 6:20 pm
I’m replying to Jackie as I’d love to learn more about how she trained to be a life coach/ relaxation consultant? (I love that title! )
I’m 54 and unfortunately just being made redundant.. for the 3rd time in my career… kind of had enough of the corporate world and exploring other options.. but how long/ how much does it cost to retrain??
Reply by pinkgekko 27th April 2020 at 11:10 am
As a trained scientist, I challenged myself to do something that I didnt believe in.
I took a Reiki course.
My challenge, was not to analyse it, not to think how ‘energy’ could possibly be used for healing, but just to accept it at face value and see what happened.
It was an extraordinary experience that is difficult to put into words, so Im not even going to try.
The learning for me was to be more open and leave my preconceived ideas behind… try it, you never know what you might find !
Reply by janefromfieldsend 25th April 2020 at 3:48 pm
My partner and I had bought a property in Italy in an area where few people speak English. Apart from needing to speak Italian for practical reasons we wished to be a part of the local community, so at the age of 56 plus I started to learn Italian and continued with this for some years. Some years later I was facing potential redundancy and feel that showing I was still up for learning something new went in my favour. Years later, in another round of restructuring, I was redeployed into another post as a project management officer, and completed a certified project management course. I’d thought that I might just scrape through, but actually got a good pass mark.
I was lucky to work for a local authority that took equalities very seriously, but at the same time I definitely think that showing I could still learn something from scratch was important in keeping me in the workforce until the age of 72.
I finally retired just over two years ago after the death of my only son which totally devastated me for well over a year.
Yes. there’s a lot of prejudice out there, and in the current circumstances of the pandemic, and over 70’s being told to stay at home to protect themselves, sadly O can only see it increasing. However I think we have to show that we can still learn new skills and come up with new ideas.
Reply by Helen Burns 27th April 2020 at 3:29 pm
That is a lifetime of new learning, Jane, thank you for sharing your story. It’s particularly rewarding when we find we can positively surprise ourselves and in the end, we are the only ones who can show up with our curiosity and willingness to learn – no one else can do that for us.
The loss of your son must have been very painful. I was sorry to hear of that.
We look forward to hearing more from you on the forum – I’m sure I saw someone mention they were learning Italian, you might have some local tips and tricks you could share.
Reply by DavidA 6th April 2020 at 9:11 pm
Hello Helen, are you a ukulele player yourself? I’m quite a fan of the ukulele Orchestra of Great Britain and I’ve seen them in concert a couple of times. I’ve heard good things about the Wellington group that you describe and have seen a couple of brief clips of them on YouTube.
Reply by Helen Burns 6th April 2020 at 4:13 pm
Now all you need to do, David, is learn some songs in Italian so that you can accompany yourself on the ukulele! Have you come across a New Zealand band called the Wellington International Ukulele Orchestra? Do check them out, they’re an inspiration for any ukulelist!
Reply by brianjohnson249 5th April 2020 at 8:57 am
I have always had a culture of continuous learning so always learning something new. The most important skill I have learnt is about neuro-linguistic programming and becoming a qualified practitioner. I have learnt so much about myself and changed my sub conscious behaviours by applying the techniques to myself. I am also enjoying using these new skills to help transform the lives of others.
Reply by Helen Burns 3rd April 2020 at 12:26 pm
That’s brilliant, Kathy, thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds as though you didn’t just learn a new skill, you also created a whole new career and travel opportunities. Congratulations! Speaking clubs are a great way to build confidence, aren’t they?