Inspired by Helen Mirren’s ‘Top 5 Rules for a Happy Life’ (my favourite being ‘don’t dive into water until you know how deep it is’) I asked some friends for their top 5 rules … and was blown away by their thoughtfulness and wisdom. So I thought I’d ask it here. What are your top 5 Rules for Life? If it resonates, I’ll add them to my rapidly expanding list!
Ps. I’ve edited this to remove the word ‘happy’ as I feel it opens it up a bit more to all the wisdom out there
Vixster 4th March 2021 at 12:13 pm
I can’t say I’ve ever thought about this before but I’ll give it a go! For me, I like to keep busy (preferably through paid work but if that’s not available, then voluntary work); I love travelling to different places; I’m not keen on exercising per se but do enjoy walking especially where there’s lots of trees; I lose myself reading and finally, these lockdowns have taught me that whilst I’m not big on socialising, I do enjoy the company of other people from time to time! I don’t think happiness is a permanent thing but something we achieve sometimes.
Vixxen 4th March 2021 at 12:16 pm
Hi Rachel, happiness comes and goes and is dependant upon our circumstances and way of life. We cannot know true happiness unless we have experienced the opposite.
I have seen happiness in the most bleakest of places and extreme unhappiness in environments you would least expect it.
Happiness is subjective but for me it revolves around relationships – family and friends. Doing some of what you enjoy. Being grateful for life. Helping others and being kind. Embracing change and accepting what is.
Carol.L 4th March 2021 at 12:29 pm
My number one rule is to think of 3 things I am grateful for every morning even if it’s only the fact that I’m still alive and kicking1! I’ve found that counting my blessings, especially in our current difficult times makes me realise how lucky I am and helps me appreciate the important little things in life. Oh, and happiness can only come from within, don’t rely on other people to make you happy!
Rachelreflex 4th March 2021 at 12:35 pm
You’re right about happiness. I’ve edited the post as I think the word ‘happy’ distracted from the essence of the message which was about sharing what we’ve learned about life.
‘Embracing change and accepting what is’ has been such a challenge for me … but a very necessary rule for contentment.
Thank you for your contribution.
NeilP 4th March 2021 at 12:49 pm
Welcome each day, think of at least one happy thought, be kind , Embrace the things that make you happy , tea and cake.
Rachelreflex 4th March 2021 at 12:54 pm
I love the way that you incorporated two Important things into one to keep to five things. tea AND cake!
Deleted User 4th March 2021 at 1:00 pm
Get a dog. Or preferably two. In my case three. They keep me positive and are always doing funny things to make me laugh. Its difficult not to feel happy with them around.
Gill B 4th March 2021 at 1:14 pm
Well I could probably go for more than 5, but here we go (in no order):
– Look for the positives and ignore the negatives
– No-one deliberately sets out to hurt any of us, they just make mistakes sometimes
– Laugh often
– Be careful what I say about others as most likely I should be saying it of myself
– Love, like or avoid – just don’t hate
Rachelreflex 4th March 2021 at 1:19 pm
Well done for limiting it to 5! I find that when I start I just can’t stop. I’m loving everyone’s responses. I’m going to get one of those big kitchen rolls of paper (like they used to have in butchers in the old days) to write them all down because they’re all so good! I particularly need reminding of no 4 …. thank you.
Kitty1969 4th March 2021 at 1:23 pm
I write down 3 things I am grateful for, every night before going to bed.
Talk to myself how I would talk to others, so no more putting myself down.
Stay away from idiots.
Do little things for myself as I would for others.
Think that’s only 4 but hard to stop at 5.
Beanoak 4th March 2021 at 4:10 pm
I’m worried about my friends! Asked for her words of wisdom, my friend who shall remain nameless contributed “Never make eye contact whilst eating a banana”.
Hilary Florence 4th March 2021 at 5:57 pm
1. Be kind, even in the face of opposition or anger.
2. Be grateful, even when those around you seem to have everything you would love to have.
3. Look for the good, it’s in there somewhere.
4. Keep your own counsel, everyone doesn’t have to know everything about you. Be interested in them.
5. Trust God – He’s far bigger and more loving than you can imagine. 😊
Dc forever 4th March 2021 at 6:28 pm
Yes dear, yes dear, yes dear, yes dear and finally yes dear…. 😃
OutdoorPete 4th March 2021 at 7:14 pm
I’m sure folk will have their own ideas but mine are, for what it’s worth:
Learn to be content
Accept that there are different ways to see things
Make good decisions
But everyone has bad days…..so expect them for what they are.
lindsay 4th March 2021 at 8:03 pm
I find it hard to be happy with the state of the world – and I don’t mean Covid. In fact I would go so far as to say that depression is a very natural state in the face of species extinction, cruelty to humans and animals, poverty, totally useless governments, especially our’s, and the big one – climate change.
Rachelreflex 4th March 2021 at 10:54 pm
Well you sound like a very caring person. You’re right, there are a lot of challenging things happening in the world at present, but I am discovering that there are certain attitudes I can have that help me find an internal equilibrium in these very tempestuous times.
ann.kingham 4th March 2021 at 8:51 pm
Rachel I’ll work on mine & let you know, you’ve inspired me to think!! In the meantime would you be kind & share some or all of your rapidly expanding list?🙏
Adeline 4th March 2021 at 9:17 pm
I believe happiness is an inside job. I was surprised when I held a workshop on happiness, one of the participants was surprised that she had every right to be happy..
Gratitude and kindness tops my list too. We mustn’t forget to be kind to ourselves.
My additions – keep company with positive, cheerful people. Jim Rohan says “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Take time out for yourself doing what makes you smile, what reenergise you.
Look after your physical, emotional and spiritual health.
Live a life filled with passion and purpose 😊
Josie The Black Country Wench 4th March 2021 at 9:35 pm
My 5 things would have to be love, love, love, love, love. Love yourself, love others, love life and everything else just falls into place.
You may not always be happy but if you love (agape) without counting the cost, selflessly then you will experience happiness at some point.
VFP 4th March 2021 at 10:47 pm
Try to understand / learn about who you are and accept yourself.
Strive to do better at what you want to do well.
Focus on the things that are important to you.
Remember that you are connected to everyone/everything and that your actions have consequences.
Surround yourself with love.
Angierae 5th March 2021 at 6:44 pm
I remember my Mum always telling me when you wake up each morning say to yourself if I can make someone one happy today then you’ll be happy.
What a shame everyone in the world can’t do that then everyone would make everyone else happy!
Apart from that I think counting your blessings, being content, helping others and realising that out of every negative there is a positive, you just sometimes have to search for it but it is there!
That would be my 5 things 🤗
Dead Poet 18th November 2021 at 10:49 am
The morning ritual of making my first cup of coffee & looking at the sky to remind myself of how beautiful this planet is.
Always try to look stylish wherever you are going.
Care not when people speak badly of me, i like myself.
Say something complimentary to someone every day, they may be having a shit day.
Be kind to Animals & spiders, you may come back as one in the next life.🤗
Dead Poet 19th November 2021 at 9:07 am
The one thing to remember is, a lot of people are lonely in their own heads, many of us have the same thoughts but don’t have the opportunity or realisation/confidence to connect with our like minded souls out there. We are all out there feeling just as confused as you.