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paul141 Posted 4 months ago
since my wife passed away in sept 2020 i have lost many golf and fishing so called friends.been golfing 70yrs
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    • Daisychain 15th January 2022 at 6:20 pm

      Hello Paul and sad to hear your ‘friends’ have not supported you in this very difficult time. I find it difficult to understand why people do this. I hope you find some more genuine friends here at Restless.
      Wishing you all the best for the future and do hope you feel less lonely soon.

    • Mad Ralph 15th January 2022 at 6:28 pm

      Hi Paul so sorry to hear about you losing your wife, you have my deepest condolences 😔.
      As far as your friends go I can only echo what Daisychain said.
      Welcome to restless brother 👍

    • Suz Cambridge 16th January 2022 at 8:35 pm

      Take care Paul 🙂 strange tho why the friends behaved like that? Are they far away or local? Maybe due to pandemic, they have stopped “socialising” or feel they are giving you some space..time…..? see the news article about —- People have been pruning friends during the pandemic — widening the already growing loneliness gap https://community.restless.co.uk/forums/topic/people-have-been-pruning-friends-during-the-pandemic-widening-of-the-already-growing-loneliness-gap/

    • Flower pot 17th January 2022 at 7:56 am

      Hello Paul sad to hear ,try n get out if you can for walks ,you meet a lot of people along the way ,I wish you well

    • paul141 17th January 2022 at 9:47 am

      thanks for the reply,nice to know people watch

    • Kathscot 17th January 2022 at 11:31 am

      I’m sorry to hear about your wife passing I lost my husband 2 years ago and it’s just not the same doing things on your own

    • paul141 17th January 2022 at 12:22 pm

      most people have no idea of the lonelyness and heartache,my home is baron without her,what about you ?

      • Kathscot 21st January 2022 at 8:35 am

        I know exactly what you mean We did everything together There are some things I have to do We have a mobile home in France and I haven’t been there for 3 years Our friends have offered to take me but the thought of going is overwhelming but I know I must I hope we’ll find the courage to do the things we have to I don’t know your age but I’m thinking about joining U3a It is an organisation for retired people who have coffee mornings and sessions on crafts and all sorts of interests They meet a few times a month so that would be an opportunity to make new friends

    • Bryony 21st January 2022 at 9:00 am

      Sorry to hear that. Feel free to chat x

    • Bryony 21st January 2022 at 9:03 am

      Going for a walk does help ! Thank goodness for groups like this then you know you aren’t on your own 🥰

    • Jac1864 22nd January 2022 at 8:13 am

      Hi Paul. I’m not sure why this happens but my sister died 3 years ago. I lost a 9 year relationship and several friends. I think some people just can’t hack it. But. The friends that stayed around are the ones that are important and have been the best. Sometimes less is more.

    • paul141 22nd January 2022 at 10:38 am

      its hard to comprehend why people and friends think that i would be a threat to anyones relationship,ive known some of them since childhood,why should look at the rest when i knew the best for 50yrs,its childish in my mind.take care and thank you for replying

    • Rachel29 22nd January 2022 at 11:00 pm

      Hi Paul, I doubt people think you are a threat. I guess they just don’t know what to say and with the enforced isolation of lockdown, more time has passed and they are now embarrassed about making contact. Try to get out and encounter people again, is there a local walking group? They tend to natter along the way and you might find a new golfing partner en route. Take care.