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Hi all…. been looking on the rest less dating site. Never been on one before. I don’t mind paying as I guess anyone serious and honest wouldn’t mind paying too.
Has anyone had any real honest people reply , or is it just full of fake people 🤔 just want a heads up before committing myself 😊
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Most dating sites are unrealistic, the free sites are dreadful. I get asked for money by women, or they make no effort in responding to you. The paid sites are probably better but they are expensive and nothing is guaranteed. I don’t know why people bother putting their details up and not even making any effort. ive taken myself off them now,
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To be asked for money is awful but then at least you know they are not genuine.
I had one man try to convince me that he genuinely wanted to give me money to help me buy a car, and to send my bank details over. I had been talking to him for quite a while…I declined most gracefully…I would never ask for anything.-
Yes, it does me, I was never asked for anything , but some men that messaged me told me that were targeted by young women, often from other countries ie Russia, asking for phones, phone cards, expressing love for them or that they always wanted to live in Colchester etc. As I said, I was asked for my bank details once or twice so he could put money in because I had just lost my car, I didn’t trust it at all and we had messaged for a while.
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I took my details off, bit expensive for me, plus I had just come off Match.com, and some of the profiles were on this one too. I think you need other men’s opinions on this one, I know of one lady who it didn’t work for which to me was a surprise.
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Thanks for reply – Yes it happens and surprisd men do this as well, and as I was looking for someone from abroad they would tell me they loved me and then come up with all these fake stories, about why they needed money, I mean I don’t even know them. The UK sites just had time wasters on here, and the pool at this age group is so much smaller so there’s not much out there, and there is no one place you can meet anyone anymore im not like gonna go to Bingo or Line dancing as im still youthful so like me and two other guys i know we just have given up. Take care….
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Ok guys thanks for the advice. I’m wise to the money thing I’ve had what I thought we’re genuine people on fb and then ask for money. The thing now is bitcoin….. they try get you into that.
I was hoping a paid site might stop that.
But, I guess the case is always beware. I’m a honest what you see is what you get guy, but people tend to pray on that.
Stay older and wiser that’s my plan from now on 😊-
It’s become such a materialistic world, scammers are rife. As I said, I paid on match, don’t even go there. The restless site might be better, I never paid but I don’t know know what could have happened. To me, it seems to be all about going on holidays, doing extreme sports, owning your own home, and high paid jobs, no one wants to know if you’re a genuinely nice person, it’s all about status, so I gave up. Watch out for those who try to get your phone number straight away or to move you onto WhatsApp quickly, they usually say that they are busy and don’t go on the site a lot etc big red flags
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I’m here. LOL! I had a bad experience years ago. Got chatting to a guy. After few chats, I told him that I had a minor disability. Well he berated me with awful questions and said, ‘Why didn’t you mention on your profile that you’re disabled.’ My explanation wasn’t good enough. Sacked online dating from then on. I’m sure you’ll find Ms right one day. 🙂
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Even FB, someone told me to join there, and I thought no, nor POF,
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I joined the paid dating site here at the end of last year , Lee, and cannot say I found it good at all, a waste of money in my eyes. I was getting people contacting me from Yugoslavia so how the distance choice worked , I have no idea. No one has contacted me recently so I just forgot about it. I did not want a bigger site so assumed this one here would be good but it has not worked for me
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Good luck, I think the older you get the harder it is to meet a prospective partner as we all have baggage of one kind or another. In my experience older men looking for younger women so they have someone to look after them, or younger looking for widowed people with money. It makes it hard for genuine people 🙃
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This is the point though, all the good people are now in hiding, saying never again due to cad experiences with the wrong people. How do we ever get to trust another person again? I know I’m genuine, you know you are, then again I had a fiance who swore blind he was a nice guy yet he humiliated me at a wedding over 7 minutes…told me he lied all the way through 3 years and promptly divulged he was going out on a dinner date, you couldn’t make it up.
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Lot more kitty, than that, the 7 minutes, I was 7 minutes later getting ready for a wedding, he threatened to leave me behind so I said go ahead. He made me anxious, so I started dropping things. We were going from Bedfordshire to Richmond, we were the second couple to arrive, one hour before everyone else, he hardly spoke to me the whole day, refused to dance, refused to wait for his niece to cut her cake, stormed off, ignored me being cold out in November, didn’t like me drinking as it reminded him if his second alcoholic wife, he didn’t speak to me, not I him, for three weeks, that’s when I should never have gone back. It was truly awful. The rest of that came four months later when he told me all that I was a rebound for three years after his third wife divorced him. I think my life would have been a slow hell if we had of married. But hey, he told me he was a nice guy after all of that, I nearly choked.
So yeah, no wonder we are in hiding, how do we trust after these types of people.
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I am sure I posted this but it disappeared. I went on match for 24 hours, it was awful, I had to delete it. I hadn’t put on a photo but I had so many messages, it was like vultures circling their prey.
I find it hard to trust that people are who they say they anyway and think people on dating sites can be more fake.
I wish for the days, where you told a friend that you like their friend and they told them. -
I’ve been tempted to join a dating site of late. Reading your experiences, I’m pleased I’ve resisted, but where does that leave me?
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That is the thing Danny , you may be very genuine and meet someone who is the same. But although we are moaning about some of the men we have met (my first husband was also off a dating app) there are also some predatory women. But I would hope you would suss this out anyway if you tried the sites
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Thanks, Lois. Good advice as I would expect from you. Had thought of a coach holiday, Not sure if they are really me. Was thinking more of a river cruise or indeed a proper cruise. As with other groups. What do I do. Wave a flag above my head saying “I’m Free”
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I don’t think they’re me either but I rather fancy a Scotland coach tour, as my dad was from there
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Part of my problem is my body is one age and my mind another
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As I’m not on any dating sites anymore due to horrible experiences, due to being scammed however it only amounted to abiyt £60.00 from someone who I knew for 10 months but I’ve learnt my lesson. As my current long-term friends have been drifting away, finding it hard seeking new friends. I’m up for going on short breaks in the UK this year. Butlins and Pontins are ok I’ve been on my own 3 times and I only use it for cheap accommodation and go to the beech and town centre but gone on coach an mini cruises which I recommend.😆
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Thats it. Gill, Kitty , Lois. Pack your bags . Summer holiday arranged
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Not a water person alas, but pontins or Butlins for all us singles on here? Could make a crazy week or weekend of it
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Has a lot of potentials. Think there is a group on here, that has suggested this already. It would be brilliant.
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Found it. Merton in travel, Suggested Gt. Yarmouth in June
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Hi, first time posting but hopefully not the last! I’ve joined Match.com in the past, absolutely terrible, I did read apart from the creeps you get they have their own decoy people who will message you a couple of times to keep you keen, I left within a few weeks and got my money back. The free ones don’t let you talk to anyone unless you pay money it is so bad that we have life experience yet do not have anywhere to go to meet new people,
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Welcome to Tilliefun. Confirms the consensus on Dating sites. It’s a minefield out there. I think the opportunity of a group meet has possibilities. Think an initial three day is a better idea. Could you imagine being thrown together for a week and no one liking each other. Lmao.
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Oh I totally agree with you.
I bit the bullet and filled out the restless site,form in part; but I felt the questions were awful ( such as how do you rate your looks, and your financial status…).a bit shallow I feel.
Despite not continuing, I have replies from men outside my catchment area and age !
So I shall not be persuing this.
Maybe I will simply smile at a stranger in the street and start a conversation……lol-
I joined this paid dating site on here before I really got into the chat side of things as I was pushed to do so by a so called friend. Apart from feeling I have lost money that I could put to far better use, I have not had any luck at all but then after meeting one chap, which was not right at all, I have not bothered to pursue any of it again. Making friends rather than any romantic involvement is far more important to me . But I would say apart from the money that I am glad I did try this because it is all a learning curve and made me actually realise what I want out of life. Nothing is a mistake, we understand ourselves a lot better for it
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This thread makes my toes curl. I’ve never been on a dating site and doubt I ever will now.
I guess the best thing to do is just make friends, be they male or female and see how life progresses.
That’s one of the reason we are holding a mixed Chatter group this evening at 18:30 (Easter Sunday)
It’s certainly not a dating group and it’s free, nothing to do with restless.
Disrespectful conversation will not be tolerated.
If you want to join us tonight please let me know as soon as possible.
Pauline
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If my daughter wasn’t home from uni, I would join in, maybe next time
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Hi Lee
You should have your invite by now. Please let me know if you haven’t received it. They were all sent last night.
See you soon
Pauline
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Hi Lee, I’m not one for dating sites, I’ve thought about it, but would like to meet someone in real life, like we used to 😏…. although that didn’t work out well for me the first time….just not the same these days. My nephew’s have both met their wives on dating sites, happily married so I guess it can work out, just have to find the right dating site, with genuine people.
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Hi… yeah long live the good old days 😊 I’m not doing dating sites either. I believe fate will always find a way 😆
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Try a free add in the Loot paper.
It worked for me.
I used to charge my add every week & was inundated with replies to the extent I was out every night.
By advertising in the lonely hearts column in the back of Loot is were I found my 2nd wife.
After living together for 15 years we’ve just celebrated our 13th anniversary & are very happy together.
tips.
Always be honest.
Be light.
Be genuine.
Be interested in them & the family.
Vital to have a sense of humour.
Don’t exaggerate.
Take a bunch of flowers on the 1st date.
Always look smart but not flash.
Clean your car.
Just be you.
There is someone for everyone.
I got lucky & so will you.
Good luck.
If at 1st you don’t succeed try try again.
In the Loot it’s free to advertise or at least it was 30 years ago?
Get back to me if you want?
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Hi Simon.
Lots of wise words. I’m glad you found happiness. I remember Loot when I was growing up in London …. it was like a paper version of ebay 😂 not seen it for years, but get what your saying tho.
Thank you anyway, but too many scares for me now and I’m just gonna look after number one for now.
All the best tho mate
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Dating sites contributors lie about their age ,download old or flattering photos .Many have no intention to meet anybody but treat it like an on-line magazine or entertainment . And yet more are blatantly in it for what they can get . Face to face encounters are always better . What you see is what you get . there are also many false profiles .On one site just as the monthly payment was due the profile popped up ,made friendly comments then disappeared when I renewed . Just not a fan .
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My daughters teenage children put her details on a dating site and vetted all the men that replied. When they found one that they thought was suitable they told her and set up a meeting. He had to come to her house. They were waiting to meet him when he arrived. He got invited into the hall way and they gave him the third degree. He stayed for the date and called her back a week later. She was very surprised after what the kids had done to him. Now three years on they are happily married, after both of them saying they would never ever get married again. He is a perfect gentleman and they are very happy. One of the genuine ones.
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