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Staying Alive Posted 2 months ago

I spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn’t resist myself and asked….

“ Dad, why don’t we activate your Internet banking?”

“ why would I do that?” He asked …

“ Well, then you won’t have to spend an hour here for things like transfer. You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!”

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of net banking.

He asked “ if I do that, I want have to step out of the house?

“ yes, yes”! I said. I told him now even groceries can be delivered at door now how Amazon delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said” since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted a while with the staff who know me very well by now.

You know I am alone …. this is the company that I need. Like I get ready to come to the bank. I have enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back I got sick, The store owner from whom I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside and cried.

When your mum fell down a few days back while on her morning walk. Our local grocer saw her and immediately got his car to rush her home he knows where I live.

Would I have that human touch if everything became online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I’m dealing with and not just the seller. It creates bonds of relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?”

Technology isn’t life…

Spend time with people….. not with devices.

18 likes & 23 replies
    • Lonelysole 10th May 2022 at 8:34 am

      This is so true life has become a bit impersonal!

      Think as humans we crave people and human company. Know I do which is why I got Eddie he gets me out every day and always find someone to chat to whilst on our doggie walk!



    • Mick20 10th May 2022 at 9:41 am

      Very true words, if people did the same as these words it would make people & places a more sociable and happier places to be 😊

      • Staying Alive 10th May 2022 at 10:00 am

        This isn’t my piece of writing.
        I don’t know who wrote it thought it was very good way of expressing how important it is to have humans in our lives

        My father unfortunately unable to leave the house due to illnesses. But they grew up in a world before technology existed and everybody in the community knew each other so help always available.

        No I’ve got to dash got people to see 😃

    • Blauro 10th May 2022 at 10:09 am

      As humans we are all social creatures that need and thrive on interaction with others. 😊

    • Sue Devon 10th May 2022 at 10:26 am

      This is so true Staying Alive, my mum used to get on the bus everyday to go to town and back just to be part of life, even when she got to he stage of not remembering what she went for.

    • Sue Devon 10th May 2022 at 10:29 am

      Another reason free bus travel is important, to keep people mobile and included

    • adeliza0165 10th May 2022 at 6:05 pm

      So true taz – technology has dehumanized society… very sad.

      The other week, an elderly lady was walking by and said something to me about the weather. I slowed down and replied and we exchanged a few words… I felt she was alone and just wanted a chat with someone and have that human contact… maybe she had lost her husbsnd… children not around… possibly not even living nearby – maybe living on the other side of the world… or maybe she didn’t have children. I visualised her life… and how life can become just like that 😔

      • Staying Alive 10th May 2022 at 7:03 pm

        On Saturday I went out for my walk around the seafront at Clevedon. It was a beautiful sunny day and after my walk I stopped to have an ice cream. Sat down at this table where no one else was sitting and several other tables were being used. I noticed an old lady looking around waiting for some where to sit she appeared to be on her own. I kindly ask her to sit down and join me, she replied that she was looking for her husband and that she didn’t know where he was. She did look very worried and I was quite concerned I said to her where did you last see him, she said he was standing beside Me waiting to get an ice cream.Then he came to where I was .two ice creams in his hand and said there you are I’ve got your ice cream he sat down and said to me that this was his wife and this was
        his life. what a beautiful way to introduce his wife. We sat together, just discussing the weather and the beautiful surroundings of the seafront.
        It was the beauty of just meeting someone for the very first time no matter how old or young and they were And just spending 5/ 10 minutes chatting can make such a difference in someone’s life.

        I felt so happy seeing them together wishing well.

    • siandeve15 10th May 2022 at 7:13 pm

      Before I retired I spent 41 years in catering.
      Had two restaurants etc.
      Surprisingly I don’t miss the job.
      I do miss the chat & comrardary you get when you mix with the public.
      So now I volunteer for the Red Cross and meet many extraordinary people do extraordinary things in helping other people.
      I love that.
      Who have you spoken to today & cheered up?

    • Naz 10th May 2022 at 7:34 pm

      Are we saying that technology have caused harm to us??🤔

    • keith2 11th May 2022 at 2:21 pm

      to true

    • Terry75 11th May 2022 at 3:13 pm

      Living on my own in a pretty rural area it can get a bit lonely. Would be nice to have someone to smile at and spoil one more time hey ho thats life. Still a happy chappie 😁

    • TOD1967 11th May 2022 at 5:35 pm

      working from home almost permanently while living alone in a new area where I know nobody can be very isolating. Some days I crave physical interaction i.e face to face, not pervy! If this is what being old and lonely is I dread it. The Loneliness page can be scary!

      • Badger56 11th May 2022 at 10:56 pm

        I find going to my local a couple of times a week just for one or two pints helps, is that something you can do? If nothing else I have a bit of a chat with the barkeep.

        • TOD1967 12th May 2022 at 7:29 pm

          I do, generally after working from the library rather than home for a change of scenery. I tend to have a couple once or twice a week but find myself on the train/walking home by 7 as the couples start to come out. I joined a local Ramblers which is fine but I’d rather start a bit earlier and not go so far, either the 8mile walks or the drive to get to the start, as it takes up all day and weekends are busy doing DIY and housework. The other thing is they are, on average, about 20 years older than me. Not a problem but I’d like to meet some people around my mid-50s age group. I signed up for a Meetup group but I could not find them in a packed pub at the first meeting and missed the second due to work so I was black-balled. I’m not in a bad way, it will be a matter of time

    • Staying Alive 11th May 2022 at 6:07 pm

      Make sure you go out every day if you can for 10/15 minutes or longer. Don’t let the The loneliness beat you join some local community events

    • Mick20 12th May 2022 at 3:05 am

      That’s a must SA, I found just after my wife passed away, all I did was work / home, Friday when I’d finished work I used to get home i wouldn’t see anyone till Monday morning, now I make a point of going somewhere just to see & speak to someone.

    • Caroline of Smoggy land 13th May 2022 at 10:20 am

      So true. One of my many jobs over the years was a Personal Shopper/Escort for those who were unable to shop for themselves. I would call in pick up their shopping list – then not only shop, but pay rents and utility bills, put their repeat prescriptions in/collect prescriptions. Escort the customer to the doctor’s, dentist or shops. Part of the job was socialising, having a natter and a cuppa. In the digital era, yes you can shop and bank on line, order repeat prescriptions – but a computer does provide companionship. Personally I tolerate digital stuff, doesn’t mean to say that I like it – though.