Well, I can’t speak for the women here; but as a general theme I’m not sure the criteria they look for are 1. Being good in bed 2. Going shopping 3. Earning lots.
It sounds to me as if you’ve had specific rejections which you’ve interpreted as falling into those categories, but even if that’s the case, you have to remember that one person is not all people, and you can’t generalise because you’ve had unfortunate experiences. Especially at our age, I think many people are looking for a lot more breadth and depth of character than this post implies.