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Posh Paws Posted 5 months ago
I’ve lived in fear of catching Covid throughout the pandemic. Can anyone give me good advice?
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    • Gerard371 26th March 2022 at 9:03 am

      Just be sensible, and keep a safe distance from others. Still wear a mask if you want too.
      I work in a school, and I haven’t contracted it yet. Most have had it, some twice, I call them greedybastards.
      No one has had any long term effects.

      • Andy347 27th March 2022 at 9:58 am

        Really! My son is suffering from long term effects of catching covid from me 18 months ago. It is devastating his life. So shut up and don’t comment on things you know nothing about.

        • Gerard371 27th March 2022 at 10:08 am

          And clearly you know everything. If you took the time to read my reply to the post properly, which you didn’t, I said that the people I know who contracted it, some twice haven’t had long term COVID.
          Not everyone gets long term COVID, I didn’t say it doesn’t exist.
          Maybe you should consider your replies more carefully and not be so rude. Good day.

        • Dorothea 27th March 2022 at 8:06 pm

          There is a difference in the severity of Covid generally, now, with it mostly being a lot milder now than 18 months ago. Sadly when your son got it, escaping with a mild version was the rarity. lt
          must be hard to see the lighter versions now when you and your son are still dealing with the worse sort, even though you wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Sometimes people just want to put it behind them and we forget how bad its been. All the best to you and your son. Hopefully he will get better. Look after yourself too.

    • Posh Paws 26th March 2022 at 9:07 am

      Thank you. Yes, I am extremely careful when I’m out and about. I honestly believe the media has had a lot to do with terrifying me.

      • Shirlann 26th March 2022 at 12:42 pm

        That was the plan🤔😁but now it’s coming out that the so called experts got it wrong more times than right 😏plus not everyone did die from it but other issues 😐

    • Robert K 26th March 2022 at 9:07 am

      I think it is important to be aware you almost certainly will catch Covid at some point. These days it is likely you will not suffer as badly as two years ago. It will also give you another layer of protection against future infections.

    • Moondaisy 26th March 2022 at 11:44 am

      I work in a school and haven’t caught it, most have and more than once.

      I like you was very worried about catching it in the beginning, but I’m feeling a lot better now I’ve had my jabs. I take the attitude, well if I’m going to catch it, I’m going to catch it. A work colleague who is VERY, very careful, wearing expensive masks, washing hands a trillion times a day, won’t let anyone touch anything of hers…. really careful…. and she caught it, so I thought, what chance do I stand? I’m no where near as vigilant as her. Can’t stand wearing the masks all day, take it off in the classroom. Difficult to teach young children with a mask on, they need to see your mouth….

      My advice, live in the ‘now’. Don’t worry about what ‘might’ happen.

    • Forestbather 26th March 2022 at 1:01 pm

      Are you in the U.K? Have you had your vaccines? Won’t stop you getting it but you don’t get as ill (except the current strain, apparently). You can book them online. Simple as.

      Find out your employer’s policy now that we don’t have to isolate. I believe NHS workers still have to isolate though.

      If you are worried then shop online and only do sports that are outdoors. Thank god summer is here.

      Travel at less busy times if you can so the tube/tram/bus is less full.

      Not much you can do at sporting events and gigs, but wear a mask to protect others if you are worried.

      Otherwise crack on with enjoying life. We have 2 years of wasted life to catch on. You could always distract yourself by worrying about your fuel bills instead. Lol.

      • Moondaisy 26th March 2022 at 1:26 pm

        😂 Always something….. Personally I would not choose something negative to distract myself with, but know exactly where your coming from Forest….What’s the saying…. Things are worse at sea…. What does that even mean? Now I’m doubting myself have I got that right? Is that a saying?

        • Forestbather 26th March 2022 at 1:35 pm

          Lol. In my life I just lurch from one problem to the next, so the next disaster is always my distraction.

          That saying is real. My Great Auntie used to say it. No idea what authority she had about the sea as I don’t believe she ever left London. Lol.

          Edited to add – correction – she used to holiday in Margate so she was obviously a naval genius. Lol.

        • Moondaisy 26th March 2022 at 6:00 pm

          Love Margate and listened to many a sea shanty there…. brill!

        • Forestbather 26th March 2022 at 6:01 pm

          You are my people.

          Margit rocks innit.

    • Posh Paws 26th March 2022 at 2:25 pm

      Thank you all for replying; I’m glad I’m not the only one with Covid fear.
      I do every thing I can to protect myself and my husband. We are fully vaccinated !
      I would really love to get myself in a position where I can just get on with my life. What’s stopping me?
      Probably fear of the fear ; if that makes sense 😱!

      • Moondaisy 26th March 2022 at 6:04 pm

        It does make sense, but try and swap that fear for love, because fear cannot exist when love is present… xxxlovexxxx

      • Forestbather 26th March 2022 at 6:04 pm

        You need to get out there mate. The last 2 years have been devastating for mental health.

        Join stuff. Join everything.

        We need our lives back.

        What’s your fun? Find local stuff that’s going on and drive it.

    • Posh Paws 26th March 2022 at 7:57 pm

      Your replies have been inspiring. I’ve gone from a 3 d world to a 2 d world if that makes sense.
      I need to live my life !

    • Sue Devon 27th March 2022 at 9:16 am

      I am still concerned but do not live with fear anymore.

      I am now out to enjoy life.

      I now do whatever I feel like doing but continue to wash my hands properly and currently with rates so high wear a mask in clinical, public transport and supermarket settings, I’m not usually in other places very long.

      I don’t wear a mask in social settings because I’m there for interaction and choose to take that risk.

      If I have a cold I will wear a mask

      I’m doing a bit of East meets West, Commercial influence v person interest.

    • Terry75 27th March 2022 at 9:24 am

      I drove an ambulance throughout the pandemic and didn’t get it. Wear a mask, wash/alcohol gel your hands regularly. Make sure you’re vaccinated. I think that most but not all of those who sadly died had underlying health conditions. Don’t let the hype scare you, its here to stay just like the flu so take the precautions and enjoy your life.

    • Posh Paws 27th March 2022 at 9:28 am

      Thank you Terry and Sue.

    • Teri 27th March 2022 at 12:52 pm

      I know exactly how you feel, Posh Paws, as I am the same. I have tried to shake of the fear, have booked social events and then ducked out at the last minute. For two years the only outings I’ve had have been to doctor/dentist and occasionally the garden centre. I’m fully vaccinated, wear a mask and rigorously wash my hands, but I can’t overcome the fear. Unfortunately it’s for good reason as I have terminal cancer and Covid would probably finish me off pdq. Those of you advising Posh Paws to just get on with life need to be more careful with your advice as no-one knows which of us will have a bad reaction to this virus. People like me certainly can’t take any risks.

      • Dorothea 30th March 2022 at 11:48 am

        I’m very sorry to hear of your diagnosis.
        You’re right to point out that people may have differing reactions to the virus, but it isn’t a reason to stop advising Posh Paws to get on with life.
        As we all know, there are illnesses which get us no matter how careful we are.
        If we all live our lives in fear, we have no life.
        Sometimes we just have to make the most of what we have.
        Stay safe.

    • paxton1974 27th March 2022 at 12:55 pm

      Take Vitamin D3 it has been shown to lessen the effects of the virus in many studies . I take 12000 iu a day & when I caught virus I felt ok apart from Cold feet & Iam 68.

    • Posh Paws 27th March 2022 at 1:07 pm

      Thank you. I actually take vitamin D .

    • Shirlann 27th March 2022 at 1:07 pm

      Read papers now the truth is trickling out 🤔😏 after the damage’s been done 🤨🙃

    • Starbright 27th March 2022 at 1:33 pm

      Have got it mild. Thought it was a slight cold, glad I have a good stock of fruit teas, fruit juices, [food as constantly thirsty and hungry, instant cup of soups] sweets, paracetamol and don’t forget tissues.
      Week before symptoms included lower backache and also soles of feet hurt if I had been out. Also increased appetite a few days before.

    • Hillside 27th March 2022 at 4:27 pm

      COVID is still something to be wary of, take sensible precautions & wear a mask. I am double jabbed plus the booster so feel that I have a good level of protection. If I catch the virus it hopefully will be just like catching a cold. The problem has been that we have been steering clear of people for so long that we have become almost institutionalised to staying in and clear of the general public, just be sensible posh paws & unless you have any underlying issues then start getting back out there. Good luck.

    • madeleine45 28th March 2022 at 7:57 am

      I have cancer, and other health problems , and have been shielding etc, so do understand how it feels. Had to move in the middle of this and it was very worrying and isolating. So my suggestions are these. Try and write a little list of things you might be able to do at the right time. That means on a day you feel able to consider something you can look at your list and choose something, rather than try and think of something on the spot which can be defeating and put you back to feeling too frightened to go out. If you have a car, one thing you could consider is just making up a little picnic, some coffee and a sandwich and some fruit, and then driving to somewhere close that means something to you, that is a quiet place. So you might go out into the countryside where there is a place where you get a view of the fields etc. Obviously park sensibly not to block gateways etc but in a layby somewhere or there may be a car park near some woods or something. Choose a quiet time if you are able to do so. Then sit there firstly with the windows open and just listen to the birds etc. If you feel calm enough then just get out and do a small walk and then back to the car and make your coffee and sit and enjoy it .When you are ready or if it starts to get busy with other people then go home. That way , when you are very worried you have a good experience to balance the worry, you have got yourself outside in the fresh air and looked at the loveliness of the land and have not caused any problems for other people. This will give you a good memory when things get on top of you, and you can either repeat it or try a little more next time, such as walking a bit further in the same place or choosing a similar place to try out. I normally enjoy travelling and visiting new places but like you, felt very anxious and worried after a long period of isolating and made worse by the stop go attitude of Boris and co and not feeling safe amongst people who were not wearing a mask etc. As I live alone, it is also worse as you do not have anyone to talk it through with or hear their sensible advice etc. But I have always been independant and realized that if I didnt do something I would end up as shut in here as if I was in a prison, just having things delivered etc etc. I hope this is helpful to you, and that you find a way to go out that suits you. It has to come from you , I understand that and people who try and force or shame you into going out are not helping you at all, so hopefully one morning you wake up feeling a little better and the sun is shining and you will feel able to try it for yourself. I wish you good luck and hope you can enjoy whatever is your pleasure each day.

      • Linde 28th March 2022 at 10:47 am

        Hello, Madeleine, what kind and thoroughly practical advice! Were you a counsellor or adviser previously? Coming away from the original question, You could do wonders with my son, who is getting more abuse everyday, and absolutely hates the way he is being treated ( he is too polite to answer them back, as I now do ) .
        Has your cellulitis cleared up, by the way? It sounded very painful, I have had a similar experience last week, makes you just go and hide! But, new week, new start, here we go!!
        All the best, Linde

      • Teri 9th April 2022 at 1:49 pm

        Thank you. That is a very helpful and positive reply. Unfortunately I’ve had to give the car up after having a radiotherapy treatment on my brain and developing double vision. I’m not able to walk very far either, but I think I can adapt your advice to fit my circumstances and will give it a go when the weather warms up a bit. I like the picnic idea. I used to take my granddaughters for picnics when they were little but they’re teenagers now. I could still enjoy one on my own though. Things will get better when the weather improves. Enjoy whatever makes you happy and stay safe. X

    • Shirlann 28th March 2022 at 10:35 am

      Hoping your still feeling a bit more chilled and enjoying the sunshine 😁

    • Posh Paws 28th March 2022 at 3:29 pm

      Thank you Madeline for your excellent advice! I have been overwhelmed by the response to my question.

    • Freeflyer 28th March 2022 at 5:03 pm

      I got Covid the week before we went into the first Lockdown. Along with my husband we both had it badly but not enough to need hospitalization. He got over it quickly, but it took me a good year before I had fully recovered. The vaccines were a Godsend. We are now just getting over a second Covid attack (Omicron). Both of us were bad for a few days, but nothing like the first time. It’s been a month now and I can truly say that it’s just a nasty memory now.

      Interestingly, my husband had been on a bike ride with two friends (one who is being treated for prostate cancer). They had spent the whole day together and when my husband got home he was very ill so tested. He had Covid and telephoned his friends to warn them. Neither of them went down with it. I also felt ill the following day and tested positive – where a few day’s before neither of us had tested positive. I was worried that my sister and mother (who is very frail at 97) might have caught it off me as I had visited them while hubby was on his bike. Fortunately, neither of them went down with it either. So this does lead me to wonder just how easy Covid is to catch in the first place.

      My advice would be that if you have kept up to date with your vaccines, even if you catch Covid, you are unlikely to be ill enough to be hospitalized.

    • Posh Paws 28th March 2022 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you Freeflyer; that is very reassuring.

    • Ems 30th March 2022 at 10:50 am

      I know what you mean. 2 years on, things are a lot different, thankfully, now we have vaccines. I’ve had the 3 vaccines and now as of 2 days ago, I am positive for covid for the first time. I’m lucky I don’t have underlying health issues. Personally for Me I would describe my symptoms as intense flu, luckily it hasn’t affected my breathing, chest or lungs. I’m taking paracetamol every 4 hours, resting, keeping warm, lots of water, eating, and a menthol inhalation for the head cold.

      I have noticed recently that a lot of work colleagues, friends and family are getting it now for the first time, probably because we are socialising more and getting out and about.

      I think the symptoms are much milder now due to the vaccines.

      In a way, I’m a bit relieved to have it now, rather than worrying about when I might get it, I don’t want to live under that cloud, also having now had it my body has produced its own antibodies which is a very good thing.

      I’m afraid we will have to learn to live along side covid, like many other viruses and diseases that we always do.

      You have to still live your life, just do what makes you comfortable, if that’s wearing a mask, social distancing and washing hands regularly do it, if this makes you feel more confident.

      I’m still not happy about being in large crowds, so I just avoid this situation. I’m easing myself back gently in increments.

      I have to say that in the last 2 years, like a lot of us I have reevaluated my life and made adjustments and I don’t miss half of what I used to do pre pandemic. I’m certainly not going to live in fear or be a hermit. Life is not a dress rehearsal. Take care

    • Posh Paws 30th March 2022 at 11:13 am

      Thank you Ems.
      Sometimes I almost wish I could catch the wretched thing ; at least then I might be free of the fear and anxiety of catching Covid.
      Does that make sense ?

      I know what you mean about reevaluating your life. I hardly miss the going to restaurants, bars etc in fact there are one or two people who have been in my life who I have almost dropped. I only want to be with those who are genuine friends.

      Life is certainly not a dress rehearsal and I’m slowly ( very slowly) doing a little more.
      I hope you recover quickly from Covid and thank you for taking the time to reply to my query.