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Forestbather Posted 4 months ago
How does life compare to two years ago?

Two years ago there were all these rumours flying about what would be happening regarding this Corona virus (remember when we called it that?).

How has your life changed? Worse? Better? Different?

Did you do the best you could or do you wish you’d have done things differently?

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    • beetlejuice 3rd March 2022 at 1:27 pm

      for me there has been a complete upheaval and change workwise.I have had to change roles and retrain in different areas in order to support nhs cope with the pandemic.It has meant more money for me as can work more than i did before.however not as important to me as quality time.it has been emotionally draining sitting with strangers whilst they are dying as a substitute for a family member.My daughter is in her second year of university so she hasn’t had the chances to go out, party, socialise with others that she might have had prior to pandemic.

    • HH 2021 3rd March 2022 at 1:49 pm

      I hated lockdown, I was furloughed for 6 months, and I hated being stuck in the house and being unable to work.

      I kinda think that things have changed slightly since lockdown has ended.

      Perhaps people realised that we take things for granted ie being able to go out, seeing friends and family- and when that is taken away from you, you think WTF!

      So I think that everyone seems to be a bit more grateful, if you know what I mean 🤔

    • MikeyG 3rd March 2022 at 1:57 pm

      Much much worse for me i am afraid, Pre-Covid I was travelling the globe with my job, my last trip was Bangalore in March 2020, I was due to then go back to Saudi, but due to covid they cancelled my visa…..I have not really left the house since, I am now working from home so I spend all my time in my house alone, I see very few people, so loneliness as become a big factor in my life, and also because I am at home all the time my bills have increased,

      I dont like to moan about it ‘It is what it is’ but I hope things may return to some kind of pre-covid levels as soon as is possible.

      • Lesley R 5th March 2022 at 9:06 am

        I do feel I was lucky as being retired and living alone I did not have as much to adjust to as people like yourself. I had the chance to evaluate what is really important to me and now I am venturing out a bit more but doing thd things I really missed and that are important to me. I hope your life starts to return to being able to do what you want and enjoy.

    • SH 3rd March 2022 at 4:10 pm

      How has my life changed? Well, as with everyone else I had to work from home which I didn’t think I would like. I always like to keep work at work and home life at home. Surprisingly I loved working from home, although I did find I was working longer hours but that was not a problem and I was able to ‘shut the door’ on my home office at the end of the working day. It opened my mind to the fact that I can do things in a different way and still maintain balance. As someone who has always loved going to work and could never imagine giving up work I made the decision to stop working and concentrate on the important things in my life. Yes, I was lucky enough to be able to do this although I do miss having a regular monthly income and interacting with work colleagues, it took me quite a few months to adjust to a different way of life. I did used to take it for granted that I could meet up with family and friends for a coffee or day out as and when I wanted and spend money, now I think before I spend, and I am so much more appreciative of my family and friends and others. Do I regret giving up work, yes on some days, but I am no longer stressed and take life a day at a time and thankful for all that I have, which I don’t think I even thought about it before. Everyone will have a different story and experience about how they coped during lock down and I can appreciate that for some the experience hasn’t been that great and has created hardship and separation from family and friends but I think we can all learn something from this and maybe think about if this should happen again ‘what would I do differently’.

    • backofbeyond 3rd March 2022 at 6:05 pm

      My part time job was furloughed initially (so at least I got some money for a bit) and then disappeared permanently.

      My 26 yr old daughter was a nurse in a transplant ward, and with Mk 1 Covid a death sentence for her patients, had to self isolate out of work for the first year until the vaccinations were available. She was one of the first in the country to get the Pfizer jab.

      Our big year of travel in 2020 vanished like snow in the summer. We’re only just starting to pick up the pieces now.

      My wife’s NHS job intensity was turned up to 11 and for the first year had virtually nothing in the way of PPE. She ended up having to buy it herself privately rather than wait for the NHS to supply it. The job is still crazy busy now with no help or anything showing in the pipeline. Staff at all levels have been voting with their feet. She retires in the summer and it can’t come a day too soon for her.

      My son started a new job just as lockdown hit and only went into work for two days before being told to work from home. He’s still working from home and will be until June at the earliest. The job was a three year contract that finishes this time next year. Two of the colleagues that started with him have already left.

    • Dorothea 4th March 2022 at 9:44 am

      This time two years ago, I had a job, a salary, a social life, different groups of friends, a phone that only did calls and texts, a GP I would recognise, voluntary work I enjoyed and a womb.

      I lost the ability to see my named GP in person two weeks before first lockdown when a face to face appointment was changed to a telephone one. I have not seen him in person since and am one of those people who find face to face appointments easier.

      I lost the (agency) job and the salary at the beginning of the first lockdown and haven’t worked since (job hunting in a pandemic compounded by health issues).

      I lost the womb and more to a (fortunately negative) Ovarian cancer scare half way through the two years.

      I don’t have a husband or children, so my social commitments with friends formed the basis of my life outside work – that obviously changed dramatically – as with a couple of social groups I had joined, who couldn’t meet anymore.

      Over time, friends’ quite varying attitudes to Covid have caused difficulties in getting us all together which still remain.

      My volunteering work was also put on hold, for a long time, by a very cautious organisation, which removed something that had really helped in previous difficult times.

      On the plus side, as lockdown loomed, I made a snap decision to get a Smartphone, buying it on the Monday when lockdown came into play, (though businesses had that day to sort out stock, empty shops etc)

      Courtesy of my Goddaughter, I got my first laptop, later buying a printer, both of which have been invaluable.

      I’ve used Zoom and Microsoft teams, ok not as much as someone at work, but I’ve had a go.

      The garden got so much attention there was barely a weed out of place

      Whilst extremely grateful for family financial help, without which I would have been in a very dire state, I also managed to get small and occasional bits of income, by doing gardening for friends, selling clothes and books on line, doing research projects with money or voucher incentives and doing some mystery shopping, all bar the gardening being new to me.

      Friends may have been harder to see, but I got to know some of our neighbours better via the socially distanced VE day event and our street WhatsApp group set up after it.

      I got to spend much more time than expected with our cat, who was not yet 1 year old at the start of lockdown, so could watch her character developing, and with the parent I live with -not without its difficulties- but generally we’ve managed and survived the health issues which have dogged me for most of the two years.

      I’ve contributed to the Covid fight by joining several research projects into different aspects of life in a pandemic, including the often quoted Office of National Statistics survey, which at least makes me feel a bit more useful.

      Someone at my volunteering organisation put out regular newsletters which kept us volunteers in touch and were a real lifeline. I ended up providing some quizzes which was fun.

      Now :

      I’m on my second smart phone and second laptop.

      I’m tentatively applying for jobs again in the hope that my health continues to improve.

      I’ve started to go out for the occasional meal or cinema visit, hampered more by the lack of funds, (Universal credit helps but doesn’t stretch beyond the rent), than anything else , though it has helped to have joined a new foodies social group as some of the friends are still quite nervous about eating out.

      It’s Spring again, and though the garden hasn’t had the attention it got in first lockdown (I am so grateful we have a garden), the flowers are coming up again with or without my help, and I do feel a bit more optimistic, as often happens in a normal Spring.

    • annp12 4th March 2022 at 10:44 am

      worse .I found out to much. and that has caused endless argument that is still ongoing .I wish I could go back to being unawere of what was going on

    • paxton1974 4th March 2022 at 4:15 pm

      Lost job I had been doing 33 years gutted. Problems at home with being together & not suited to each other had a job for November last year but they got rid of me after a month saying they had lost a contract . Had offer of job on Monday but had to turn it down due to it not fitting in with wife’s job .

    • Optimistic 4th March 2022 at 4:32 pm

      Good for me as I am now able to take my dog to work. Also having a dog meant I had to go out and people I met were a lot friendlier

    • VFP 4th March 2022 at 4:39 pm

      Two years ago I was spending many hours every day visiting my husband in hospital. He had been diagnosed with cancer but could not be treated because of medical negligence (lawsuit in progress), which paralysed him. Although he wanted to come home he needed carers to look after him (as well as me) but because of Covid we couldn’t find any until April. I used to walk up 13 flights of stairs several times a day rather than take the crowded lifts with people not wearing masks. I had organised a symposium for July 2020 including experts from around the world in collaboration with a university on senior entrepreneurship but I had to abandon it. Then my husband died and we had all the lockdowns, which were a blessing for me as they enabled me to lick my wounds on my own.

      Life is better now. I am still rather lost and the world is looking bleak, but I am also fortunate in so many ways and grateful for all of the good things in my life.

    • Staying Alive 4th March 2022 at 5:21 pm

      We moved Somerset and area I know nothing off and had no friends . My job had already ended in Swindon we moved just before the pandemic started by the time we had settled in are ready to look for new work in came the first lockdown. Which took my mum. I’ve got diagnosed with spinal problems, husband left, my son had already left, and my daughter i. Uni so I’ve got the big house all to myself. Still haven’t been able to find work due to health reasons do you work from home occasionally.
      Not many friends as most who are at my age have busy lives. So just get on with everything day by day and the best way I can I’m grateful I still have my life almost didn’t last year 😢

    • Tambos57 4th March 2022 at 7:14 pm

      Last two years – certainly feels longer.
      I’ve lost family, friends, put on timber, work from home more, some routines become habit

      Good parts- mmm, work/life balance better.

      I’d go back two years before it all started in a heartbeat.

    • VickiLynne 5th March 2022 at 8:21 am

      It made me reassess my life – what was important and what wasn’t. I actually found myself noticing what was going on around me rather than running through life in a blur.
      Some days I raged against the world and some days I quietly accepted what was going on. I adapted.
      What I did find was that friendship and family, which I’d always considered important, were so incredibly important. More important than if realised. I spent time nurturing those connections. I think I’m very fortunate to have a house, garden, good neigbours and so on nearby.
      And then just as life seems to be returning, the Russians invade Ukraine. I find that far more disturbing than Covid-19!!

    • Suziku 5th March 2022 at 8:21 am

      My day to day life isn’t too different but I’m living it in a different town Although that had been my ‘plan’, it was the pandemic that made that happen. I’d been planning to move back to my home town but it was losing my uncle that made it happen, as I’ve bought his house. I’ve also lost my ‘best’ friend but only because after months of being the one to make all the contact since moving, I gave up when she was the only ‘friend’ who made zero contact with me after I told her that my dad was on end of life, and that really hurt me. On the positive side, I joined a local walking group, Silver Friends and Silver Ladies Chatter and am busy spending time with new friends as well as long term friends.

    • Christopher Leslie 5th March 2022 at 10:57 am

      It completely changed me. I lost my Job and had to go into lockdown for 2 years. Once able to go out into the world again, I took the first job offered, not one I enjoy. But apart from that I stay home. I’m no longer confident enough about going out and about. Even shopping. I don’t have friends over or visit them. Though I do keep in touch over messenger. I realise I’m being stupid I’m triple vaccinated and have gone through covid (which was touch and go for a while) before a this I was confident and comfortable around people. I enjoyed having people over for dinner parties. Now I just don’t do it.

    • Grace Williams 5th March 2022 at 4:17 pm

      Absolutely loved it!!
      I stood down as a paramedic, as I wanted no part in the fiasco that was about to unfold.
      The first time in my life I had to opportunity not to work (After 40 years on the coalface). I got to heal, confront my complex PTSD as well as my PTSD (Very different MH issues even though they sound the same) – I have slept, ate well, I did’nt do stupid hours (I could even go to the toilet when I wanted/needed, I slept, ate, relaxed, wound down -NONE of it dictated by a clock or employer!). The last 2 years have been excellent! I’m now reassessing where I go and what I will do next, my terms, my conditions, my hours, my needs, my wants – The world will now have to fit in around me, as opposed to me bending over backwards to fit the world 😉