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Dingle Posted 2 years ago
how can I be happy in my own company?
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    • Dingle 30th November 2020 at 4:36 pm

      I would love to have a couple of friends to phone in a day

    • Noel29 30th November 2020 at 6:21 pm

      You’re right.Would you mind if I mailed you?

    • Teresa Ann Francesca 30th November 2020 at 6:35 pm

      I’m lonely but I don’t have phone calls cos the only time my partner listens to me when I’m talking to some one else

    • Bevofdevon 30th November 2020 at 8:19 pm

      It is easy to say but challenging to do. Like many things it can get easier the more you do it. Covid has thrown a spotlight on loneliness which might mean people learn to connect indifferent ways.

    • Deleted User 30th November 2020 at 9:49 pm

      I’m on my own and don’t work now. You have to keep busy, whether it’s work or play. Hobbies are good or your garden? Do you have anything that occupies you? I find if I’m not doing anything depression can set in and that’s even worse than being lonely.
      They say that so many people have reached out needing help with depression and anxiety since Covid.
      Even the divorce rate has gone up! Married couples realising that being couped up with a partner for months is making them realise they have relationship problems.

      Perhaps we are better off on our own?! 😏🤔😂

      • Deleted User 1st December 2020 at 4:13 am

        I think you are so right. Stay busy and active if possible. In this Lockdown we are restricted but do plan the day to do things as you say. I live in the countryside in Kent, and go for long walks. I’m fortunate enough to have a car so can take a drive out to garden centres, and farm shops and the seaside. Always chores to do, and gardening. I found when I retired I needed a daily reason to get up. Mine was going swimming early each morning. My gym is closed right now here so instead I go for a walk. I also joined Meet-up.com, which is an organisational over the World, which offers groups for absolutely everything, from Socialising, to Sewing classes, golf etc. I’ve met so many friends through this and would highly recommend it. In normal circumstances there’s always something to do, somewhere to go. At the moment lots of events are online using Zoom. Do take a look at Meet-up.com, it can change your life. Lots of luck to everyone. Nikki

        • CELIA 1st December 2020 at 5:56 pm

          i know you are right and I do try, I had only been widowed for just over a year when the pandemic started. It really knocked me back. Sadly all the green spaces around here have been built on and there are not many places to go for a nice walk without making a car journey. I do lots of Yoga some via a ZOOM class and have a garden. So yes, good advice keep busy

        • Deleted User 2nd December 2020 at 8:31 am

          Hello Celia – I think it’s particularly hard for you as you’ve recently been widowed, it must take a lot of strength to keep motivated. But don’t give up, just keep busy and doing things. Go out walking even into town, and into a shop. I wish you well xx

        • Noel29 11th January 2021 at 9:26 pm

          Thank you Nikki

      • Noel29 11th January 2021 at 9:25 pm

        Yes you are.As I know being with someone that you don’t get on with anymore that is even lonelier.

    • CELIA 1st December 2020 at 8:01 pm

      It is difficult to admit just how lonely you can feel, I admit to hiding it from others and putting on a cheerful face.

    • CELIA 10th January 2021 at 2:31 pm

      Friends have been kind but we are unable to meet and I don’t like to ring too often from fear of being a nuisance. My daughter is lacking all sympathy and her answer is ‘you are lucky, I wish I had time to myself’ She lives in the next county, has not been to see me, and I haven’t been to her because she has the grandchildren to stay and I am worried about getting infected by the children.

    • siandeve15 10th January 2021 at 9:08 pm

      First of.
      You’ve must learn it has to be ok with you to be on your own.
      When you’ve done that then find hobbies for one person, reviewing stuff, eg tripadvisor bizarrely I’m a level 6 top reviewer with 460.000 people read my reviews from all over them world.
      Look for stuff you can do on your own
      Eg photography, Hiking, volunteering, diy-ing.
      Collecting what ever interests you.
      I’ve never fitted in.
      If you’re of similar don’t try to fit in as it just doesn’t work.
      Good luck
      Get back to me for a chat anytime

    • Steelneck65 10th January 2021 at 9:50 pm

      Loneliness is not here because of Covid. This has been, and is a big problem all over the western world. We’ve created this kind of society. Work, consume (products or tv), eat and sleep. That’s our lifecycle. Even though we have phones we don’t call each other in fear of being a nuisance. We spend our days on FB, Instagram or playing stupid games. We don’t communicate anymore.
      And we fear to look vulnerable and needy so we don’t stretch out our hands. We just keep living in this emotional drought. And we are many more then we can imagine. You are not alone with this problem.

    • siandeve15 10th January 2021 at 10:38 pm

      The Beatles sang.
      Were do all the lonely people go.
      But why don’t all of us on here make a sort of lonely hearts club band
      Especially as we are all in this together.
      Anyone up for this?
      If so let’s all ad how to motivate each other?

    • CELIA 12th January 2021 at 4:36 pm

      love that , not seen a soul today, so I qualify as a member already

    • lynnridley 12th January 2021 at 10:29 pm

      I don’t know. Any ideas out there?

    • Newkidonthesite 12th January 2021 at 11:41 pm

      No comment 😂😂😂😂😂

    • siandeve15 13th January 2021 at 9:19 am

      This loneliness issue seems to be a natural delimmer.
      I’ve always loved to be bissy.
      Sitting around all day isn’t for me.
      In that light I occupy myself doing diy, cooking, walk for 2 hours everyday & sometimes chat to other walkers.
      In essence it’s your call.
      Sit & be miserable all day.
      Or get up & do something about it?
      Do it, don’t do it.
      What do you want to do?
      I’m sorry if you think I’m preaching, but we’ve got to do anything is better than doing nothing.
      Tell me tomorrow what you did today.
      Maybe we can start a club of do-ers?

    • siandeve15 3rd February 2021 at 8:15 am

      This sutuation & issue has developed into a major problem for many people especially on their own.
      Can I just add.
      I completely understand & simperthise with you all.
      Many years ago I thought I was loosing my marbles to the point of me actually seeking professional advice.
      I’d like to reasure you all this situ is temporary there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
      Its right now that’s the issue.
      OK I can suggest stuff to pad out the time etc.
      But I know you don’t really want to hear that.
      I also know from previous experience you really just want to have a chat to understand people.
      I can talk the hind legs of a donkey.
      I don’t have a magic potion to rub it better.
      But what I do have is immense understanding
      & patience.
      I’m hear for you anytime.
      Whatever you are dissatisfied with in your life, what ever is troubling you irrespective of whatever.
      Just pore it out & get it off your chest once & for all?
      Your call?

    • adeliza0165 24th March 2021 at 1:19 am

      I think happiness has to come from within because the happiness around us is always evanescent. I can sit in the sun in ssummer and instantly im happy and whatever my problems are, theyre a distant haze. Yet in the winter I could have less problems going on in my head but they can really get magnified! But all the time I’m looking for the happiness within…contentment… satisfaction… acceptance… peace and calm.