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Deleted User Posted 1 year ago
Hi, newly joined!

Morning all and Happy New Year.
I am new to all this and have only just joined. I am a 53 year old woman, with 2 sons in their 20s. I also have a 12yr old dog.
I ended a 16yr relationship back at the end of 2019 (SO many issues!)
Does anyone else find it difficult to make friends in the 50s? At the moment I’m not looking for a relationship, but friendship/companionship. When you reach your 50s (maybe even before), most people already have their friends sorted, however, I have recently moved and what with Covid taking over our lives, am finding it difficult to make friends.
What are people’s thoughts?

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    • Arwen68 9th January 2021 at 8:47 am

      Hope your well , not been long here myself

    • BettyBoop 9th January 2021 at 6:09 pm

      Hi Jules welcome. It’s very difficult especially if you’re quite quiet as I am. Thinking of joining some meetup groups as soon as I can. However they also need to be local as I don’t drive x

      • debm19 10th January 2021 at 7:57 am

        A few years ago I joined a local meet up group over 40s ladies sorry guys, set up by a lady who had lost her best friend to cancer and needed to make more friends and live life, and it was great we went for drinks, meals, and even picnics met some lovely ladies but last year made it impossible to meet but i still kept in the Facebook group, its a good idea not everyone gets on lol but I found it great to meet new people, I’m new to this group but I suppose its a simular idea

    • Dc forever 9th January 2021 at 6:31 pm

      Welcome aboard 👌

    • Steelneck65 9th January 2021 at 8:31 pm

      I think there are more people than we can imagine who has this problem. I believe we are too scared to speak out and search for and talk about this. I moved to the UK from Sweden in the end of sep -20 so can relate to this. We must dare to speak out about this. What do we fear?
      Of course rejection and therefore humiliation. So, what do we do? Just dare……
      Easy to say, hard to do. Maybe should be my resolution 2021.

      • debm19 10th January 2021 at 7:59 am

        Hi, yes I think its fear but I say to myself whats the worse thing that can happen and what’s the best, go for it you may surprise yourselves

        • Steelneck65 10th January 2021 at 12:05 pm

          Yes, that’s what all of us wanna do, but few really follow thru. Hence all the loneliness going on. Go from theory to action is not always easy. Fear of rejection and disapproval hinders a lot of us.

        • debm19 10th January 2021 at 4:45 pm

          Yes I agree I spoke for months online before I plucked up the courage to go to a meet

    • Deleted User 9th January 2021 at 9:18 pm



      I was in a similar situation not so long ago and had moved to Colchester myself. Over the last few years I have made some really close friends as well as a larger social circle through Meetup. There are a couple of groups that you can join.

      I know it’s difficult in the lockdown but give it a go as they are a really friendly bunch.

    • Jay Taylor 10th January 2021 at 12:17 am

      I always find it difficult to make friends due to being shy and not confident. However, I think joining such a group like this might help network with others and open up some good friendship groups I hope.

      So far it has been interesting to find out about different hobbies and what interests people have taken to during lock down etc.

    • debm19 10th January 2021 at 7:47 am

      Hi Jules, I’m also in my 50s and have made the very hard decision to separate from my husband been together 21 years due to ongoing problems 😞 long long story , its a mad time what with covid and the split but I found this group recently and it helps knowing there’s other in a similar situation to ourselves, here’s to a new start, new friends and embracing our new lives goodluck, deb

    • sharonclayton 10th January 2021 at 8:01 am

      Hi Jules
      I am also a newbie here so hi 🤗 friendships as we get older : some we appear to keep and some begin to wander.
      Moving also creates loss of friends but eventually creates new ones – so the very best of luck.
      Are you still working ? Is there any kind of socialising going on within and outside work ( prior to Covid of course).
      There are also so many of us at times that are lonely but I honestly feel if we reach out then we can make new friendships lasting friendships in person and online, like here right now so welcome my friend.
      Shaza x

      • Deleted User 10th January 2021 at 8:10 am

        Hi Shaza
        I’m not working. I sold my house and gave up work to be nearer my elderly Mum. Because of Covid, I haven’t had an opportunity to join groups etc, so haven’t made any friends. I’m sure once leisure centres etc open and I can join, I hope to make friends. Cross fingers, that will be late Spring early Summer.
        Everything is very difficult at the moment for us all.

    • redman 10th January 2021 at 11:36 am

      i find it hard as i moved here 5 years ago in my 70,s live in somerset

    • Amanda in Durham 10th January 2021 at 11:47 am

      Hi Jules,

      I agree, It IS difficult to make new friends when you are in your 50s, but I hope it is not going to be impossible! I also moved so I don’t know anyone in my new location, either, but I have already met some potential new friends via this site, thank goodness, one locally no less!

      Where are you located now, Jules67?

      Have I seen you on the long-term relationship thread I started? I can’t remember whether I have seen that name before, it is difficult to keep track of all the names!

      All the best,


    • Christine Robertson 10th January 2021 at 2:28 pm

      Hi, I think people our age find it difficult whether we are single or attached.
      Moving from the area does not help matters either.
      Always here if you want company or a friend to chit chat.

    • Shonzie60 11th January 2021 at 5:53 pm

      Hi. I left my husband if 25yrs when I was 47 with an 18yr old and a 21yr old. I tell you there is life after divorce. I met my soul mate and we had 12 fantastic years until he died of cancer last year. I’m sure this site is good and joining a class at a college would help you too. I met my husband online. Good luck and you will blossom now. Xx