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Hoarder Posted 6 months ago
Hi Im Izzy and I am looking for anyone with any spare time to get to know for laughs and Coffee maybe wine to help me with my Clutter I have had bouts of depression and feel the job is too big now would love some Help & Guidance thankyou for reading Izzy
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    • paulinevaughan2015 4th June 2021 at 5:33 pm

      No idea where you are in the country but its the sort of thing we do at Silver Ladies Chatter Facebook group

      Zoom coffee mornings often lead to real life meet ups where possible

      If you want an invite just send me a message, but I promise you will get a warm welcome regardless of where you are or who you are


      • Hoarder 4th June 2021 at 5:50 pm

        Hello thankyou for replying with your kind message Im in Peterborough anyone near here?

        • paulinevaughan2015 4th June 2021 at 7:45 pm


          I can’t remember anyone mentioning Peterborough but a few probably a bit further afield. Best thing to do is join and post a bit about yourself if there is anyone I’m sure they will speak up. We have 116 members it’s difficult to remember where everyone is.

          BTW you are female?

    • Catwoman 4th June 2021 at 8:06 pm

      I wish you lived closer we could help each other. Unfortunately I’m in Manchester. Good luck with things though. Perhaps we could spur each other on through DMs?

    • Hoarder 4th June 2021 at 8:14 pm

      Aah bless you thankyou very much, yes I will defo spur anyone on but not myself🤪20 yrs of clutter I have a lovely family but all of them say “ Chuck it out Mum” but it needs sorting first and right now it feels insurmountable a mountain lol not like the programmes 🤨

    • LeighS 4th June 2021 at 9:30 pm

      Hi Izzy,

      I do periodically clear out my clutter but then it all builds up again!!! You should see my kitchen and living room. My excuse, actually I don’t have one apart from I hate throwing anything away and reuse what I can.

      What I have learned over the years is not to stress out about it, which I have done. However I have found that eventually I will go through a cupboard, a box etc and say do I see a need for this or not. If not then I will donate the item if it is useable.

      What I don’t do is have my elder son with me if I am doing any sorting, he is worse than me 🙂

      Good luck and take care,


    • Hoarder 5th June 2021 at 4:39 am

      Thankyou Leigh for your message, I think a lot of people are like that. My friends open the bin and actually throw things away Im amazed they can do that. Its an insecurity with me I have felt all this Stuff is a warm blanket but actually its suffocating me and yes you are right Im so stressed over it. My house is clean and Im not likely to come across any skeletons underneath like the American programmes Buried Alive omg its herendous. I feel so sad as I honestly believe its to do with loss and mental illness, I suffer with bouts of depression and I cannot see my way out of the tunnel. Sorry for going on Im a chatterbox 🤣Izzy

      • LeighS 7th June 2021 at 9:33 pm

        Don’t worry about going on, talking is always good 🙂

        When it comes to decluttering, not only do I have to go through my cupboards, but I need to check out the boxes of things that I have stored. Now that is where I suddenly find things I can’t live without. They don’t go back in the box, but are kept out. Yes I do donate things, but it is all those little items that I keep, ornaments, mugs, some of my son’s baby clothes etc. All the things that bring happy memories 🙂

    • lucy aldrich 6th June 2021 at 1:01 pm

      Are you on Facebook? I have a dear friend who actually specialises in decluttering and is a lovely lady. She also has a Facebook group, so do message me and I’ll put you in touch with her.

      I’m happy to support you by messenger too x

    • loislane 6th June 2021 at 1:57 pm

      Hope you find a local group on here.
      First of all, my mum was a bit of a hoarder, have friends who were worse. I had problems letting go and it’s all to do with loss and a fear of more loss.
      So confronting this and the root cause could be helpful to you.

    • Julie Finlay 6th June 2021 at 6:57 pm

      We’ve started to de clutter recently as we’re moving house in a few weeks. I’m finding it VERY stressful! I’ve decided to set a timer and for sometimes as little as half hour each day which is working well so far as I’m not getting overwhelmed as much doing it this way.

    • Julie R 7th June 2021 at 3:44 pm

      Try setting a goal to clear one drawer or shelf or corner of a room. I also find it very difficult to throw things away, but by taking small steps I have got rid of some stuff.

      • Solstice 17th September 2021 at 4:41 pm

        That’s the best one yet!
        I have recently moved TWICE! (in 6 months) and by the left, I have got down to so little it’s great! I take my lead from the Japanese landscapers I researched when gardening was a thing. “The garden is not complete until you can take nothing else out” I do live an extreme level of minimalism. There is nothing in this flat that either doesn’t function well, or make me smile every day. My memories are not clutter, because they are in my head so light to carry around. The few ornaments I do have (including my pictures) are of achievements. A positive reinforcement of value on a spiritual level almost.

    • Hoarder 7th June 2021 at 8:45 pm

      Bless you thank you for the advice! yes I often look at it as the bigger picture. Today I made a good start by finding the Dining Room trouble is its all in the hall now lol🤣🤣🤣🤣from Izzy

    • AEB 8th June 2021 at 4:26 pm

      I love a good clear out – My motto if I have not used /or worn it in the last twelve months I will never use/or wear it . Keep the things that are important/hold special memories and free yourself from the rest

      • Solstice 17th September 2021 at 4:43 pm

        Twelve Months?
        I give them 21 days to justify their existence.

        I’m not a “dispose for the sake of it” person, I just hold value in quality and practicality. If it functions well, if it looks right, its good. If it’s idle for too long, there’s a reason for that, and off to Cancer Research it goes.

        • AEB 17th September 2021 at 5:06 pm

          Fantastic I volunteer for Cancer research

        • Solstice 17th September 2021 at 5:10 pm

          My Mum passed a couple of years ago having staunchly refused intervention for Pancreatic Carcinoma. It is an important area for me, as there is a family problem in the Hepatic region historically. Myself I was operated on within 2 hours of it being too late to bother, and I am so thankful of the team who dealt with it. My own “C” was successfully removed although it did leave a daft fold in my ear! Better a talking point than being a talked about though.

        • Solstice 17th September 2021 at 5:13 pm

          I should add (for clarity) My liver issue and my Ear tumour were not related of course, and operated on by different specialists! Save anyone reading my other comment and thinking “Eh?”

        • AEB 17th September 2021 at 5:31 pm

          I had my own case of C a few years ago , thankfully operated and sorted out very quickly
          Sadly lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago to Cancer

    • Hoarder 8th June 2021 at 4:47 pm

      Bless you how true that is thankyou for that very helpful Isobel

      • Marica 8th June 2021 at 6:20 pm

        Hoarder, another idea is to go on You Tube and watch a few videos about clutter clearing. It may just give you some energy or enthusiasm to have ago . I found it has helped me. Karen Kingston is quite good clutter clearer to look up.. Maria Kondo is a pioneer but maybe a bit heavy for you to start with. You are right in that it has to come from the mind first . Some days , I feel overwhelmed then another day , I suddenly think Time to Clear. It is very satisfying to sell stuff on ebay or Facebook and even donate

    • Hoarder 8th June 2021 at 9:08 pm

      Thankyou Marcia for your message and kind words Isobel

    • Hoarder 27th June 2021 at 3:37 pm

      Hoarder here, Going to really work hard on clutter this week Im determined

      • Solstice 17th September 2021 at 4:46 pm

        How did you get on decluttering?
        Procrastination is a dangerous ally.
        I have even decluttered my Ex Wife’s house! (Where she is now I mean.) See? I’m not the ogre she thought I was. No return ticket though. I have moved forward, and she respects that

    • Sarah P 1st July 2021 at 12:05 pm

      Hi Izzy. I’m Sarah. I’m new to Restless and looking to make friends and share laughs and experiences. Where are you based?

    • Hoarder 1st July 2021 at 2:11 pm

      Hi Sarah Im Hampton Peterborough how about you?

    • esther.bray23 29th July 2021 at 8:50 pm

      Whereabouts are you living?

    • Hoarder 29th July 2021 at 9:53 pm

      Hi there I live in Peterborough and so far I have not been able to reach anyone who lives near me , thankyou for messaging

    • Deleted User 29th July 2021 at 10:21 pm

      Been there (Clutter not Peterborough). I had a lightbulb moment when visiting someone who had built a large agricultural barn to hold all his clutter. My own smaller barns were already beginning to fill up. Nowadays although I do tend to accumulate, whenever I feel threatened by it I ruthlessly donate stuff to charities and to a couple of businesses of which I approve.

    • Hoarder 30th July 2021 at 5:35 am

      Yes its definitely to do with mental health they are linking it with. I do not want it but when I let it go I feel uncomfortable. Its like a false sense of security like a warm blanket. Actually what happens is it eventually eats away at quality time. I can trace this right back to my childhood. Onwards and upwards I believe this is very common. Izzy

      • Deleted User 30th July 2021 at 7:48 am

        Ah, mine’s different, I keep things because they might come in handy, or because I hate to waste stuff. No comfort in having it around, in fact it’s an embarrassment now I’ve downsized.

    • Roybeech 30th July 2021 at 6:32 am

      Don’t get down over it there is always something around the corner .Where about are you

    • PATTYC 30th July 2021 at 12:45 pm

      Never throw out things that can be given to Charity shops. They are always on the lookout for donations.

    • Hoarder 30th July 2021 at 8:59 pm

      Thankyou for your n e message Patty C from Izzy

    • Deleted User 2nd August 2021 at 6:53 am

      I’m fantastic at clearing, organising, sorting. I do it often for my elderly clients. It’s very therapeutic. I wish I lived closer to you to give you a hand. Xx

    • Hoarder 2nd August 2021 at 11:55 am

      Hi there, lovely to have a message, Haitch, I have a lovely clean home which is three storeys high and we are looking to move so Im working my way and its all ending up in my garage. So I figured if I started at the top and work my way down cleaning and sorting as I go. I just need some moral support really somebody to spur me on when I start feeling down and its insurmountable which of course it isnt. It is all to do with mental well being its very deep and difficult for some to get there heads around it. Lol that was a tad heavy 😜ok tea break over thanks for reading Izzy.

    • Circle of Peace 17th October 2021 at 11:35 am

      I had to do a serious downsize and had to get rid of so much stuff collected over the years. I found the Marie Kondo book so helpful. She shows you how to look at your ‘stuff’ differently. She shows you how to get rid of ‘stuff’.

    • Deleted User 17th October 2021 at 11:45 am

      Hello from Bristol