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OutdoorPete Posted 5 months ago
Dry January, cutting back on food, it’s harder for others!

Like many people I tend to cut back on food and alcohol after the festive season and have taken to doing a dry January and cutting back on food during this time, all in the cause of better health.
While I am comfortable with this it seems to frequently be a problem for my friends and loved ones!
My family of feeders have to be kindly retold that I don’t want another piece of cake as I’m already quite full up and I’m trying to cut back a bit.
When socialising with friends the encouragement to drink is persistent and it’s difficult and awkward to turn down a kind offer several times which is well meant. ( but I do ).
I know all this pressure to consume is done out of love and friendship but I wish people would please listen and respect my intake preferences as I try to get back to normal after a festive blow out, without the usual discussions.
I’ll be back to my old ways in February when I’ve got rid of the excess holiday timber I’ve put on, and my will power has been drained !

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    • Trampus 10th January 2022 at 9:25 am

      Know what you mean. I put on half a stone over Nov/Dec. Need to get it off. Being offered chocolate and cake by skinny relatives doesn’t help.

    • Paul of Southampton 10th January 2022 at 11:46 am

      Why dry january I don’t get it ?

      • OutdoorPete 15th January 2022 at 9:21 am

        It’s a national campaign to get people to give up alcohol during the month of January to give the body a chance to detox and recover from the effects of alcohol and to encourage awareness of the negative effects of alcohol, and encourage people to reboot their relationship with alcohol. January is the chosen month for this campaign as it’s thought people may have overindulged over the festive period and are now keen to re look at their drinking habits.

    • Polly54 10th January 2022 at 2:29 pm

      I put on several pounds on giving up smoking two years ago it’s said that it takes three years for your body to get used to not smoking and the average amount of weight put on is approximately thirty pounds I have friends who are doctors they say “you’ve done extremely well to only gain several pounds” it doesn’t feel like it 😂

      • FrancesK 15th January 2022 at 10:29 am

        I know what you mean I gave up 5 years ago and will never get back to smoking weight. I’ve now accepted I’m a stone and size bigger Hard to refuse cake and sweets 😋

        • Polly54 15th January 2022 at 10:34 am

          It doesn’t help matters that Christmas, Easter, Anniversaries, birthdays come every year 😂 I mean it would be rude to refuse that glass of wine or slice of cake

    • Caro 15th January 2022 at 8:40 am

      THe main problem is that we’ve come to consider food as an entertainment, not as a fuel. Until that changes we will have weight problems. Sorry, that’s sounds very blunt, but it is true, unfortunately. It’s a long term attitude change that’s needed, not diets.

    • OutdoorPete 15th January 2022 at 9:04 am

      You are right. I’m actually quite ripped ( not meaning to boast ) due to extensive gym work and a bit of restraint throughout the year, but evening grazing and over eating, nice as it is, is a pleasure that comes with a cost

    • Robert K 15th January 2022 at 9:12 am

      I wonder how many of us are overweight? I’m not talking about a spare tyre, but above the weight nature intended. I suspect most people are carrying several pounds too much (I will admit to half a stone). Does it matter? Probably not, but it would be interesting to know (scientifically) the perfect weight.

      • beetlejuice 15th January 2022 at 9:27 am

        i can tell you that all medication doses are determined using the average weight of an adult man of average height which is estimated to be 5ft 9 inches tall and 12 stone in weight.However, who knows of any men who weigh only 12 stone?

        • Robert K 15th January 2022 at 9:40 am

          I just wonder if we are conditioned to believe being overweight is normal. 12st at 5ft 9in seems heavy to me – but those are the official numbers.

        • beetlejuice 15th January 2022 at 10:26 am

          really Robert? i think 12st is light for an adult male.This is the height and weight medicine doses are based on as this is the average.

        • SelsdonLion 15th January 2022 at 10:48 am

          Those figures give a BMI of 24.8, so the top end of ‘normal’ altho I oftentimes wonder what ‘normal’ means in health terms. Is that a healthy range or just average for the population?

        • beetlejuice 15th January 2022 at 10:57 am

          Hi Selsdon, so the figures i quoted are what pharmaceutical companies and drug trials are based on when determining the dose of a drug.It is known as posology.Average male 5ft 9 and 12 stone.The dose would be the same if the man was 11 stone and also if he was 15 stone.With regards to the ideal weight, again we are all so individual who is to say what is ideal.Surely if we are somewhere near what is considered average and we feel happy and well, this is the most important.

        • SelsdonLion 15th January 2022 at 12:32 pm

          Yes I always wonder about the ‘one size fits all’ approach to medicine dosages. Especially when it comes to women, who tend to be shorter and lighter than men.
          Regarding the ideal weight I’d prefer to compare myself with the average fit male of a similar age.

        • beetlejuice 15th January 2022 at 12:54 pm

          hello, anyone over the age of 12 would be given an adult dose.So a woman of 7 stone would have the adult dose, it may vary slight if she was malnourished etc.But fit and healthy then same as adult male.Yes, you have the right attitude.Why worry

        • Trampus 17th January 2022 at 11:57 am

          My eldest brother is. He’s 79, fit as a fiddle, eats like a horse and weights just under 12 stone (5ft 10ins). I hate him, lol.

    • Staying Alive 15th January 2022 at 9:32 am

      Why have Breakfast
      Ans for those who have snacks in between.
      Re-education your mind body to only have food as and when your mind body tells you. (Rule) eating only healthy options and small portions. I’ve been doing this for over a year. My weight is
      8stones 2 pounds. I was almost 10stones over a year ago. Regular at my gym. Water drinking at least 2/3 pints a day. Raw veggies and fresh fruit. Lots of walking.
      Can be done. Motivation and will power the two strongest elements here.

      Good luck

      • lesleyjg144 16th January 2022 at 7:43 am

        Well done! I’ve recently signed up to Noom and love it. Only shifted 4lbs so far but the psychology is changing my mindset to your thinking. Mindful eating is my next goal

    • Deleted User 15th January 2022 at 9:47 am

      Hi Pete, This post seems to have veered into an overweight/diet discussion which I dont think was the aim of your message.
      Maybe the problem is that your friends & family see this as a temporary ‘be good’ & are not taking it seriously. I changed to a vegan diet 2 years ago & my family & friends have been supportive all the way. Nobody has tried to encourage me to eat animal products & have all gone out of their way to provide vegan options, if not entire vegan meals which they are happy to have themselves. Last July I stopped alcohol & again all have been supportive, even over Christmas, where they bought Nosecco & no alcohol wine for me. Whilst I admire the effort that goes into Veganuary & dry January, others often find it a challenge to support something that is only short term & not a complete life choice. Good luck with sticking to your guns despite the saboteurs.

      • OutdoorPete 17th January 2022 at 7:54 pm

        You are right about the direction of the discussion but I’m ok with that ! I’m actually ok with my lifestyle, we don’t live forever and life is for living but a bit of moderation makes sence to me. As for the dry January I don’t think it will do any harm, I don’t drink a lot anyway but you are right, I was more interested in the reaction of others to my sudden abstinence than advocating for lifestyle change or thinking that a dry January will answer all health and dietary torts and maladies! X

    • Staying Alive 15th January 2022 at 11:40 am

      Dieting and good health is for life not short-term so even if it is to lose weight one has to maintain that.

      My daughter is the only one in our family who is vegan we fully support this and a very respectful to her wishes providing all the food that she wishes to eat and quite often follow her lead.

      • beetlejuice 15th January 2022 at 11:57 am

        yes, health needs to be maintained and i think yoyo dieting is dangerous.I dont think it is a problem being over what is considered the norm.Why beat yourself up over something so unimportant when there are so many other important things to concern yourself about? I think if someone is aware of their weight and realises if it is a problem or not then they can set about making changes.it is like all things health related, only we can ultimately change it

    • madeleine45 15th January 2022 at 4:29 pm

      I have found it rather a vicious circle, as I have very bad back problems and it varies. When it is very bad I have difficulty even getting showered and dressed and can not even have a decent walk as I used to. My husband used to ask me to slow down because I was a quick walker . So now the best I can do is go swimming, which is less painful and allows me to get some exercise in rather than none. However, once I have been swimming I feel hungry! Still I find keeping an apple and sometimes celery in my bag gives me something to keep me away from worse food. Once I am able, I do go walking but nothing like the way I used to. I like my mothers attitude to dieting etc. She used to say , if she could run up the stairs, do all the jobs she needed to do without running out of breath, that was fine for her, didnt bother with looking at the scales. That seems to me to be a good idea, rather than going on the scales all the time , which only reminds you of food in a way. Well at least the days will get a little longer and that will be encouraging to get out and about.

    • adeliza0165 16th January 2022 at 3:17 pm

      I think anything in moderation is ok but as I’ve got got older I’ve had a few health scares and have had to rethink my eating habits.. I’ve cut right back on foods such as bread, pasta, biscuits, cereal bars, dairy yoghurt, cheese and milk and gone more for crackers, nuts, fruit/salad, cottage cheese or humours, soya yoghurt and oat milk. It’s a way of life now.

      • Daisychain 17th January 2022 at 8:23 pm

        That’s the thing, isn’t it? Seeing change as a way of life and not a diet. When I read about giving up smoking (Alan Carr) he suggested it wasn’t giving up but giving back a sense of smell and taste together with more energy and less stress. It’s all about psychology.

    • OutdoorPete 16th January 2022 at 3:25 pm

      Good that it’s working out for you ……and it will help going forward with the health issues …..all the best.

    • Trampus 17th January 2022 at 12:01 pm

      Everybody is different, I remember when I left the army, I was as fit as I would ever be, fitter than most “civilians”, 34 years of age and weighing 14st 7Lbs, which is what I had been for the last 14 years. My doctor told me I was overweight. My weight according to the charts, age, 6ft 2ins, large frame should be 13st 5lbs. Now I’m 72, fluctuate between 14st 4lbs and 15st and my doctor is happy. Can’t win can you, lol

    • OutdoorPete 17th January 2022 at 7:31 pm

      Thanks for your service in the army. You seem to have things sussed out pretty well .

    • Daisychain 17th January 2022 at 8:28 pm

      I agree with your sentiments. I rarely drink and am very moderate in my sweet treat habits as I was pre—diabetic. I’ve lost a bit of weight and happy right now with myself. I now find myself getting grumpy when people don’t want to take no for an answer. I’m beginning to feel it’s a little disrespectful but I don’t stress about it anymore. Life’s too short. 🙂